"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to act at a party

Vanilla

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I was invited by a former fraternity brother (I am no longer a part of, just keeping in touch) to one of the bro's g/f's party. My previous experience at a party was pretty dull. I got nothing out of it, and mostly danced by myself with the occasional bumping up against a girl to try to get her involved with me.

I want to know how to do better this time around. I have limited dancing abilities, but I've been told it would be better if I just talked to them instead.

Any advice?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BlakeW5

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Be the life of the party. Talk to eveyone (good convo's not awkward talks), have fun, smile, be loud, out going, etc. Get the attention of a crowd of people (tell stories, etc.). People follow others, if a person (girl or guy) sees you with the rapt attention of a group of people they'll want in on the action.

Just have fun and put yourself out there. Being a "party person" isn't something you can fake. You either thrive in a party setting or you don't. I'm a party person, but I'm not a large party (50+) person. I work much better in smaller (20 people and down), more intimate parties.
 

frisco

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K simple I am assuming your going with the intention of ****ing a hottie.. Go to the party around 9pm and walk around,small talk, have fun, build some social proof with guys and a few unattractive girls once the clock hits 10 its game on 10 till 2am is the window for a easy onenightstand with a hottie, at 10pm talk to all of the hotties dont stay for long and every once in a while go back to the guys and ugly girls you were talking too before the 10pm mark.. once the clock hits 11 you pretty much just start hugging all the girls, find a couple and play a drinking game with them, be completely ADD dont focus on them too much just play cause you love drinking, by 12 you will start seeing windows of opportunity by girls for you to reopen them once you find one that suits you you begin to isolate, talk about how fun that drinking game was, make fun of the dorky guy at the party, eventually after about 10 to 15 minutes put both of your hands up like your giving her a double High Five, (don't say high five, if she is vibing you she will dont it on her own free will) grab her hands like hold them up and bring her close to you then kiss her once for 3 seconds, then stop look her in the eyes, let go of her hands, then go in for the kiss and begin a makeout session
The rest is all you buddy
 

oakraiderz2

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8 shots.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oakraiderz2

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8 shots.
 

tsmith2334

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BlakeW5 said:
Be the life of the party. Talk to eveyone (good convo's not awkward talks), have fun, smile, be loud, out going, etc. Get the attention of a crowd of people (tell stories, etc.). People follow others, if a person (girl or guy) sees you with the rapt attention of a group of people they'll want in on the action.
He's definitely right, but you can't be too crazy either. Be funny, happy, outgoing, friendly... but don't be that idiot running around the party who is in everybody's face. He's trying to be the life of the party too.

Be down to earth, interesting and fun. Control yourself though.
 
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