"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How to accept your girlfriends past relationships
- Thread starter TheFool
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
It's all about perceptions, I suppose. The way I see it, if I'm with a woman who's had her share of experiences, that actually makes me a pretty lucky fellow. See, she had the opportunity to hang with all those other dudes, but instead she's sleeping with me AND I'm getting the benefit of her past experiences.
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1- Hoes are girls who put out after only one or a couple of dates. These girls are best for ONSs.
2- Good girls are the ones who don't put out until marriage (not my type), or that wait a couple of months before putting out, when they deem their boyfriend trustworthy enough. These girls are best for LTRs.
You will never have a problem with a girl's sexual past after you apply the preceding guidelines to your life, for the following reasons:
a- You will never have a girlfriend with a heavy sexual past that will bother you.
b- The girlfriends who actually DO have a sexual past won't have slept with too many guys, since LTRs usually last long.
This is pretty beautiful in theory, but I'm still looking for my perfect gal (type 2)
PS: I know there is a double standard in my post, and I don't care
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This guidline makes perfect sense.Originally posted by Engetsu
The perfect solution:
1- Hoes are girls who put out after only one or a couple of dates. These girls are best for ONSs.
2- Good girls are the ones who don't put out until marriage (not my type), or that wait a couple of months before putting out, when they deem their boyfriend trustworthy enough. These girls are best for LTRs.
You will never have a problem with a girl's sexual past after you apply the preceding guidelines to your life, for the following reasons:
a- You will never have a girlfriend with a heavy sexual past that will bother you.
b- The girlfriends who actually DO have a sexual past won't have slept with too many guys, since LTRs usually last long.
This is pretty beautiful in theory, but I'm still looking for my perfect gal (type 2)
PS: I know there is a double standard in my post, and I don't care
Why would a guy take a risk being in a relationship with a girl who has a history of being with many guys? Sure the sex might be good with her but if she hasn't made a solid commitment in the past to one guy then how can you be sure she will make a solid commitment to you. You might be in luck for a few months with her but that is about it.
It also isn't a double standard.
Women want a guy who knows how to please them. In fact, this is so important to them that they are willing to risk being cheated on. I know many girls who have fallen for guys who are no good for them.
A man on the other hand doesn't really care if a woman can please him. He only cares that she is willing to open her legs and that she is clean. For a long term relationship a man will seek a woman who can demonstrate that she knows how to uphold a promise. When a woman refrains from having sex with many guys she is proving to herself and everyone else that she is not ruled by lust. This is very important to a man who wants a LTR. A man won't take a girl who is ruled by lust seriously.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
In the first place you shouldnt be talking about ex's. Go read DON JUAN bible if you dont know that already. There your problem is solved.
Why? If you dont talk about it, you dont have to "accept" it, you can not even KNOW about it.
I want to be informed about the sexual past of any guy I plan on having sex with. If he won't share that information with me then I won't let him touch me, period. I would also hope the guy would want to know my sexual past. If he didn't, it would raise a red flag in my mind.