"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How the hell do you talk to a very introverted girl?

jericg

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This is such an annoyance to me because I've met many introverted girls that I either got rejected from or friendzoned with. Now, I've met another one. She gave me her number a month ago and now that we see each other a lot in tennis, she seems to avoid me.

I had a chance to talk to her today, but she doesn't say much. I mocked her for being quiet and she didn't say a word or make eye contact. I use to feel that I am doing something wrong in these types of interactions, but I know now that its not me, that its just her being... introvert.

I thought that I should give up since I've just met other girls(more extroverted ones) during this summer but there's something about her... Its probably the challenge, but how does a DJ go about to attract introverted girls?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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RiceandChicken

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Well, I'd say try some ****y/funny man. See how that works for you. Give her the impression that you're a carefree dude.
 

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it seems like a lot of work but not a lot of reward,

I never bothered with this type of girl though
 

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If she really is an introvert - which I seriously doubt she is - you've got to get her to feel comfortable. Being something of an introvert myself - though I probably talk a lot more than you're making it sound like she does - the best advice I can give you is to keep persisting. If she is interested in the slightest, she will eventually open up to you. If not - and in my opinion she seems disinterested - well at least you tried.
 

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I'm really being patient here. I am afraid to step it up because I can easily screw it up. I really dont want to waste her by doing that. This is quite a challenge. I've previously faced 3 like her and I have failed all.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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On one of those 3 girls, I've recently started talking to one again. Instead of being smily, loud and jokingly as I normally talk to any girl (did not work on her) I toned it down a bit. I communicated with her with a slight smile, smoother voice, listened well, and used more appropriate jokes. I could tell that she was giving me a chance, but before I could ask her anything, she already moved to another school. Well, toning your character down seemed to have worked.
 

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Introverted girls want you to be loud and social to everyone else, then quiet and private with them. They want to imagine a relationship where you take them to a party and talk to everyone and keep them involved, then take them home and show them a sensitive side before/as you fvck. Also they really don't want you talking about them to anyone. Privacy is key.
 

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There we go! Genius! In my experiences, that would make sense. I am an introvert myself, I'm always thinking about anything, watching people do their thing, without really saying much. It sucks, but when I talk, I talk a lot. Anyways, as much as I like that intimate 1on1 moment, I prefer to rather be talking to everyone. One problem I have with this is that I dont know how to break off of talking to everyone so I can single out with the girl, but I believe that you just approach with less energy. LearningSlowly never fails to give good advice.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
Introverted girls want you to be loud and social to everyone else, then quiet and private with them. They want to imagine a relationship where you take them to a party and talk to everyone and keep them involved, then take them home and show them a sensitive side before/as you fvck. Also they really don't want you talking about them to anyone. Privacy is key.
Hammered it^

Be nice. She will eventually open up if you're just nice and safe. When she does you become a little bit flirty, then a little bit more flirty...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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