"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How the hell do you talk to a very introverted girl?

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This is such an annoyance to me because I've met many introverted girls that I either got rejected from or friendzoned with. Now, I've met another one. She gave me her number a month ago and now that we see each other a lot in tennis, she seems to avoid me.

I had a chance to talk to her today, but she doesn't say much. I mocked her for being quiet and she didn't say a word or make eye contact. I use to feel that I am doing something wrong in these types of interactions, but I know now that its not me, that its just her being... introvert.

I thought that I should give up since I've just met other girls(more extroverted ones) during this summer but there's something about her... Its probably the challenge, but how does a DJ go about to attract introverted girls?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well, I'd say try some ****y/funny man. See how that works for you. Give her the impression that you're a carefree dude.
 

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it seems like a lot of work but not a lot of reward,

I never bothered with this type of girl though
 

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If she really is an introvert - which I seriously doubt she is - you've got to get her to feel comfortable. Being something of an introvert myself - though I probably talk a lot more than you're making it sound like she does - the best advice I can give you is to keep persisting. If she is interested in the slightest, she will eventually open up to you. If not - and in my opinion she seems disinterested - well at least you tried.
 

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I'm really being patient here. I am afraid to step it up because I can easily screw it up. I really dont want to waste her by doing that. This is quite a challenge. I've previously faced 3 like her and I have failed all.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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On one of those 3 girls, I've recently started talking to one again. Instead of being smily, loud and jokingly as I normally talk to any girl (did not work on her) I toned it down a bit. I communicated with her with a slight smile, smoother voice, listened well, and used more appropriate jokes. I could tell that she was giving me a chance, but before I could ask her anything, she already moved to another school. Well, toning your character down seemed to have worked.
 

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Introverted girls want you to be loud and social to everyone else, then quiet and private with them. They want to imagine a relationship where you take them to a party and talk to everyone and keep them involved, then take them home and show them a sensitive side before/as you fvck. Also they really don't want you talking about them to anyone. Privacy is key.
 

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There we go! Genius! In my experiences, that would make sense. I am an introvert myself, I'm always thinking about anything, watching people do their thing, without really saying much. It sucks, but when I talk, I talk a lot. Anyways, as much as I like that intimate 1on1 moment, I prefer to rather be talking to everyone. One problem I have with this is that I dont know how to break off of talking to everyone so I can single out with the girl, but I believe that you just approach with less energy. LearningSlowly never fails to give good advice.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
Introverted girls want you to be loud and social to everyone else, then quiet and private with them. They want to imagine a relationship where you take them to a party and talk to everyone and keep them involved, then take them home and show them a sensitive side before/as you fvck. Also they really don't want you talking about them to anyone. Privacy is key.
Hammered it^

Be nice. She will eventually open up if you're just nice and safe. When she does you become a little bit flirty, then a little bit more flirty...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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