How the hell did this guy get the girl (or did he)?

[Balla_Baby_69]

So, I go to college and we just got here yesterday. I met this girl back at Admit Weekend in April and we hit it off and were making out by the econd night. Ever since then we have been keeping in contact (she's from LA and me from DC) and it seems she really likes me (trust me, I got all the signs)

Anyway, I see her yesterday and we seem to really hit it off. Flirting and stuff and she mentioned about our date (which we had planned a couple weeks before) and blah blah.

Ok, like a month ago I noticed this dude posting a lot of stuff on her facebook wall. I mean A LOT. He was saying how much he likes her and how perfect she is. He posted on her wall like 5 times in one day, no joke. All the stuff that the Bible says not to do.

Anyway, at around nighttime last night I could tell he really likes her (he goes to our school too and he's from LA) cus he kept walking around her and trying to flirt and ish. By the end of the night (we walked around a lot that night, it was a group of about 6 of us) they were holding hands for atleast a minute I saw. Earlier she had walked with her arm around me and my arm around her (she initialized it), also, so I'm like WTF?

Anyway, I acted like I didn't notice and it didn't phase me. I didn't go back there and try to compete I just kept myself preoccupied with other things/people, but it was messing me up inside because I have really gotten attached to this girl.

Also, she seemed kind of in a glum mood when they were walking like that together, like people are when they are deep in thought. Cus I heard him keep asking her if everything was OK and she said yes when it was obviously not.

Anyway, what the hell do I do in this situation. I have a serious ****blocker and I have no clue if she likes him back. Should I be coming on strong like he is or what?

 

[Desdinova]

I think your problem is you got one-itis for a girl you've only been out with once.

 

[Stag]

Hahaha, what a loser. Learn how to keep your woman. You have to walk like if anybody comes near her you will kick his ass.

 

[Balla_Baby_69]

Yeah, but it had been like 4 months since I saw her. And he doesn't even know I like her like that...

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

I'd say pull back and let her come to you.... this guy will blow it in a very short time, trust me. He's already half way there, or more.

Chill out, man.... it's no big deal, really. Stop getting attached for nothing.

Also, the fact that you just got back to college might be something to think about. Why would she want to rush into something with anyone, when she hasn't had time to weigh her options? You shjould have options, too.

is it really that complicated?

 

[Balla_Baby_69]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
I'd say pull back and let her come to you.... this guy will blow it in a very short time, trust me. He's already half way there, or more.

Chill out, man.... it's no big deal, really. Stop getting attached for nothing.

Also, the fact that you just got back to college might be something to think about. Why would she want to rush into something with anyone, when she hasn't had time to weigh her options? You shjould have options, too.

is it really that complicated?

Trust me, I really don't want to feel like this. I tell myself the SAME thing you just told me, but I can't help but feel the way I feel. I don't let it show for obvious reasons and I confide in certain friends.

I just can't help really liking this girl....she's great

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Originally posted by Balla_Baby_69
Trust me, I really don't want to feel like this. I tell myself the SAME thing you just told me, but I can't help but feel the way I feel. I don't let it show for obvious reasons and I confide in certain friends.

I just can't help really liking this girl....she's great

How old are you? You can help how you feel to an extent--I've done it.

 

[Balla_Baby_69]

18

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

I understand how you're feeling. We've all been there, and we still get in these sittuations from time to time. You need to learn how to maintain a cool head, and not let this throw you off.

You really need to keep your emotions in check. Women are the ones driven by those. Not us.


Go after other goirls... believe me, there are tons more, and once you can get past certain things you'll relaise that they are pretty much all the same. Some are a bit cooler than others, but there's always a more fitting one right around the corner.

You've got oneitis and it's messing with you head.

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Okay, man, here goes.

You're 18 years old and whining like a f***ing baby. Either take her back, like they said (to pull away and let her come to you) or just next her.

You say you can't control your feelings; bull sh**; be a man and in control--yeah, I know it's hard sometimes, and sometimes you can't completely control how you feel, but you've seen this girl once, and now you're like, "Oooh, I can't help how I feel about her..." Yes, you can, and if you found another chic, that was kind of the same way she is, you'd forget all about this girl.

Grow some f***ing ba**s man, and either do somethign about it, or move on.

 

[Balla_Baby_69]

Yeah, I know I got oneitis and there are prettier females, I just....

Besides, in the past the second one is always the charm. I don't know what it is about it, but usually girls come to me in pairs and the first one I start liking but then I don't feel her anymore and then the second one is the one that sticks around for a while.

But, ironically, Janea was actually number 2 cus I made out with this other girl first back in April, but Imma say she's #1 now....hope that's not connfusing, it has no significance, 'm just saying ****

 

[Balla_Baby_69]

Originally posted by The Nice Guy is Gone
Okay, man, here goes.

You're 18 years old and whining like a f***ing baby. Either take her back, like they said (to pull away and let her come to you) or just next her.

You say you can't control your feelings; bull sh**; be a man and in control--yeah, I know it's hard sometimes, and sometimes you can't completely control how you feel, but you've seen this girl once, and now you're like, "Oooh, I can't help how I feel about her..." Yes, you can, and if you found another chic, that was kind of the same way she is, you'd forget all about this girl.

Grow some f***ing ba**s man, and either do somethign about it, or move on.

I am doing something about it. I already said I was gonna take the step back approach and I was just wondering if that is the right thing to do, considering this dude is doing just the opposite and he's the one holding her hand and not me

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by Stag
Hahaha, what a loser. Learn how to keep your woman. You have to walk like if anybody comes near her you will kick his ass.

lol gj captain courage. You have to be joking...