How the F­UCK do you build a social circle in High School

[P­ornography]

Hello my fellow Sosuave members.' My name is Porno and I'm switching schools to a PRIVATE CATHOLIC High School in the Fall. Generally these schools are filled with kinky-ass religious b!tches. Doesn't start till Fall, so I've got time to prepare, maybe help out with Summer School over the summer or something I don't know. My big question is how in high school did you guys maintain tight friendships? I really know nothing about building social circles in general, other than saying hi and being my overall friendly/chatty-self. I mean is this enough? I'm a pretty funny guy. I can joke in class, or get the teacher's respect while paying attention, etc. But is this enough?

I will be completely new to this school for my Senior year. Some of you guys say 'man fcuk HS it's gay' and some of you say it's easy to string social circles.

This is my last year of High School. I will be a Senior. I am new to this school. NO ONE KNOWS ME.

My question is for the "popular" kids in HS, what clubs did you join? Sports? I've never played on a team, but I've always liked Soccer so I'm joining a summer league/camp to train for the HS team. I will be a Senior, which ups my status a little. But what clubs do you recommend??! Never joined those either. I notice that other guys who transfer from out of area seem to string along social circle incredibly quickly.

I will NOT be a nerd/loner my last year of High School.

I've already decided. I've lurked at this sight for about 5 months now. I will Sosuave-it-up in this school so f­ucking hard they won't know what hit em.'' I'm saying it right now my fellow DJs, I am going OUT WITH A BANG. I will rail every LAST F­­UCKING CHRISTIAN ass in this school if it kills me. I don't care that they're probably religious snobs with sticks up their asses.


Ok, not really but my goal is to gain friends for life, go to crazy parties, get awesome grades and be a cool-ass person to hang out with. It will take more than saying Hi and having a nice attitude, for HS, so my questions is for the people the thrived in HS. How did you do it?

My current Goals for this are:

- Get my own car
- Join a Club(s)
- Make it on the Soccer team (preferably Varsity I saw their JV team is all Freshman -_-)
- Find people to play Guitar with, maybe start a band a rock girls' panties off with my guitar skilzz (I can play Hotel California unplugged)
- Say hi to every damn person in that crazy religious school and make it seem like I'd been going there since Freshman year


Thank you Sosuave! This isn't a troll thread. I'm just trying to keep it real, I know most of you here do.
deuces

 

[twixt]

forget em, make something of yourself first, save time

and money wasted on the low class things you meet in high school (or college, for that matter) Women want a man who is ABOUT something, and until you get a lot of training and experience, you are not about anything. Therefore, no women are interested in you, naturally. So learn to do something that they "dig". Karate and combat pistol shooting were always my interests, they work GREAT with women, worthwhile women, too.

 

[P­ornography]

and money wasted on the low class things you meet in high school (or college, for that matter) Women want a man who is ABOUT something, and until you get a lot of training and experience, you are not about anything. Therefore, no women are interested in you, naturally. So learn to do something that they "dig". Karate and combat pistol shooting were always my interests, they work GREAT with women, worthwhile women, too.

Thanks for the advice. I've also seen that girls really dig guys who are "about" something, for me it's challenging teachers on stuff they say, generally being really involved in class discussions, but it takes more than saying witty stuff in class to get heard.

I'll look into combat pistol shooting, but Brazilian Ji-Jitsu has always been my thing more than Karate

 

[twixt]

grappling has its place, if you can't SEE, if the floor surface is slick, or mainly, when you are trying hard not to hurt the guy much, which is how grappling got to be "the thing" in UFC type "fights". It should be obvious, tho, that you can strike MUCH faster (and 2-3x at once) than you can grab hold of any part of him. Occasionally, a grab can be a big surprise, like a snatch at his "guard" wrist, but then the best answer is to lean back and side kick him in the ribs, while holding onto that wrist.

 

[MartyMcFly]

I'll look into combat pistol shooting, but Brazilian Ji-Jitsu has always been my thing more than Karate

If you're into BJJ I'd try MACP (Modern Army Combatives Program) its basically the same thing

 

[Gears of Led Zep]

I've already decided. I've lurked at this sight for about 5 months now. I will Sosuave-it-up in this school so f­ucking hard they won't know what hit em.'' I'm saying it right now my fellow DJs, I am going OUT WITH A BANG. I will rail every LAST F­­UCKING CHRISTIAN ass in this school if it kills me. I don't care that they're probably religious snobs with sticks up their asses.

Nice. Haha. Sounds ike youre on the right track my brutha

 

[P­ornography]

Come on BUMP.

No one can help me with this?

 

[JustWuzzle]

Hello my fellow Sosuave members.' My name is Porno and I'm switching schools to a PRIVATE CATHOLIC High School in the Fall. Generally these schools are filled with kinky-ass religious b!tches. Doesn't start till Fall, so I've got time to prepare, maybe help out with Summer School over the summer or something I don't know. My big question is how in high school did you guys maintain tight friendships? I really know nothing about building social circles in general, other than saying hi and being my overall friendly/chatty-self. I mean is this enough? I'm a pretty funny guy. I can joke in class, or get the teacher's respect while paying attention, etc. But is this enough?

I will be completely new to this school for my Senior year. Some of you guys say 'man fcuk HS it's gay' and some of you say it's easy to string social circles.

This is my last year of High School. I will be a Senior. I am new to this school. NO ONE KNOWS ME.

My question is for the "popular" kids in HS, what clubs did you join? Sports? I've never played on a team, but I've always liked Soccer so I'm joining a summer league/camp to train for the HS team. I will be a Senior, which ups my status a little. But what clubs do you recommend??! Never joined those either. I notice that other guys who transfer from out of area seem to string along social circle incredibly quickly.

I will NOT be a nerd/loner my last year of High School.

I've already decided. I've lurked at this sight for about 5 months now. I will Sosuave-it-up in this school so f­ucking hard they won't know what hit em.'' I'm saying it right now my fellow DJs, I am going OUT WITH A BANG. I will rail every LAST F­­UCKING CHRISTIAN ass in this school if it kills me. I don't care that they're probably religious snobs with sticks up their asses.


Ok, not really but my goal is to gain friends for life, go to crazy parties, get awesome grades and be a cool-ass person to hang out with. It will take more than saying Hi and having a nice attitude, for HS, so my questions is for the people the thrived in HS. How did you do it?

My current Goals for this are:

- Get my own car
- Join a Club(s)
- Make it on the Soccer team (preferably Varsity I saw their JV team is all Freshman -_-)
- Find people to play Guitar with, maybe start a band a rock girls' panties off with my guitar skilzz (I can play Hotel California unplugged)
- Say hi to every damn person in that crazy religious school and make it seem like I'd been going there since Freshman year


Thank you Sosuave! This isn't a troll thread. I'm just trying to keep it real, I know most of you here do.
deuces

Building a social circle on your own is hard a fvck. I remember high school like it was yesterday. I'm 25 and I'm not the right one to give you advice but I can tell you what I didn't do. One when you are new to a school people naturally talk to you do what you can and talk back don't be scared to say what you've got to say. To ask people for help or advice it's best to find a couple people who are cool and ask them for help then. From then on branch out. By that I mean ask if they do anything or are in clubs. Never sell your self short. Don't put yourself down or think you won't be good at anything try everything now while you are still young

Now for a story. I hated moving to my new middle school I was a outcast who wore outdated clothes and was poor. One kid say hey Anthony why don't you join the football team cause. I sold myself short making excuses and just having a bad attitude. If I could have done it over I would make myself do it. I would have graduated. Yes, folks wuzzle is a high school dropout. I wish you the best ask don't be afraid branch out speak your mind who can hurt you now you are a god as a teenager.

 

[Chamber36]

U dont need the teacher's respect unless the class respects the teacher. Same thing goes for everybody else.
You need respect from the respected. Respect is given to those that demand it. So dont take sh!t from anybody. Make sure you can stand up for yourself. I would join a martial arts club if i was you. Not for hte rep, but for the benefits to your health and your confidence.

If u wanna make cool friends just start smoking weed. since it helps u relax it'll become easier to get to know the person you're with if you're both high. This will help you bond in order to get a good long-lasting friendship! Just choose your friends wisely because most will turn out to be backstabbers. That's just how the world is, whether ur smoking weed or drinking tea.

Joining a private school it'll become easy for you to bond, because it's a select group of people forced to be around each other. I'm sure you won't have to worry.

I would stear clear of the rejects though. Don't worry about being a superficial *******, everybody in high school is an *******.

 

[IamJosan]

In HS, generally if you're a cool guy and ur cool with all the other guys, you'll start meeting everyone. Especially since you're the new kid you can meet more people easily. You can either be the new kid that's shy forever, or you can be the new kid that's social and outgoing!

 

[EA Gold]

Growing up as a catholic I can tell you one thing. Being a catholic doesn't mean they are real Christians. If I'm not mistaken the inquisition persecuted real Christians who did not bow to the pope.

Back to your question, I also think making the school soccer team and working out will get you far in the social circles.

 

[lateluvr]

If you are going to be teaching WOMEN hand to hand, forget about the grappling. They dont have the necessary ferocity, upper body strength, desire, etc, to get any good at it. If you want to score with the ladies, you help them do better in life, not overwhelm them with what they can't do and aren't ever going to be able to do (without working out like GI Jane and taking male steroids) and aren't really interested in doing in the first place. You teach them eye gouges, face-rakes, nut-cracks, and throat-strikes/rips, so that they build a bit of confidence, maybe get a concealed carry permit and always have at hand the real "equalizer", so that they don't have to have strength, just speed/skill with the weapon.

 

[P­ornography]

I think it's pretty much impossible to build a social circle in high school.

I think it's possible....just pretty damn difficult lol. I mean, building up your own would sound impossible, really I'm just looking to because a part of others.

In HS, generally if you're a cool guy and ur cool with all the other guys, you'll start meeting everyone. Especially since you're the new kid you can meet more people easily. You can either be the new kid that's shy forever, or you can be the new kid that's social and outgoing!

That's what makes me apprehensive lol. One mistake, one slip-up or in class embarrassment and I might be branded!! Haha. I agree with you though. I think Sosuave has very much helped me round-off my personality, it's really made me charismatic and friendly around people.

To quote Deadly_Ripped's awesome post from another thread, this is a tibit that I think applies to people in general, not just getting women:

Unless you're a hipster or hippy, the following rules apply.
You muse be:
1. Well groomed
2. Physically resembling- or totally representative of- at least one male stereotype (all this means is ANYTHING but average white/black male)
3. Confident and friendly (I put these two together because it takes confidence to assume that people will enjoy your outgoingness, and to be friendly and open with strangers or near-strangers)
4. Charming (eloquently put recently that charming is simple sharing positive feelings about the person you're talking to with them - making them feel like you're basking in their glow and enjoying their presence).
5. Willing to- but not overly-eager to- disagree with something said or done.
6. Sexual from the get-go with new people - even men (just not directed at them).

Growing up as a catholic I can tell you one thing. Being a catholic doesn't mean they are real Christians. If I'm not mistaken the inquisition persecuted real Christians who did not bow to the pope.

Back to your question, I also think making the school soccer team and working out will get you far in the social circles.

Thanks man. I'm going to try very hard and put huge amount of effort, if I don't make it at least I'll have the bod and confidence.

I didn't read your thread...because its too long.

But here's what I can tell you -

First off, learning a hobby is nice - but it wont get you women. I don't know why guys think that this is the end all be all on this site. It is completely rubbish! You need to learn how to enjoy your life as it is right now...the current state of things. You need to not expect anything nor desire anything but the adventure of going out and living. Sounds abstract probably - but that's the deal.

Now onto your topic of interest -

Building a social circle is quite simple...especially in highschool. The first thing you need to know is that the popular vs unpopular thing in highschool is utter squirrel turds. Drop that stupid notion from your mind immediately. Talk to everyone all the time - talk to the kid that eats his boogers, talk to the smelly girl, talk to the super hot girl everyone wants to bone, talk to the teacher who just gave you a C for some reason. Don't NOT talk to people because you feel like you are outside of their social circle. FVCK that noise son! From now on you are your own social circle and that social circle allows you to talk to everyone all the time!

So lets say you chat up some hot chick in your school. Inevitably, someone will reject you..for whatever reason. The key to the whole thing is whether you let that rejection bother you or not. Why is that? Well I can tell you it's not because of what the girl thinks (or whomever she talks to about it)...it's because you've reacted to her! If someone rejects you than that's their thing not yours! Go right up to someone else and start talking to them - remember you can and should talk to just about everyone in your school.

From here it's pretty easy to setup a social circle. Don't be afraid to get people's numbers - if they reject you...see above paragraph. The one lesson I can tell you about a phone number and what to do with it once you get it is this...call or text within the next 1-2 days. If someone calls you out for being stupid...which will rarely, if ever happen..see above rejection paragraph. Again if your talking to like every person in your school (or as many as possible) and you're getting all their numbers you'll have more than a few numbers to compensate for someone being a douche. Now start making plans with the person..lets go do this or that. Gaming dudes is practically the same as chicks...except theres no sexual escalation. You should still be kinoing though (be nohomo about it tho).

This is obviously a rough sketch of what you need to know...but really you need to learn how to GAME period. When I learned GAME I did it for girls...but what I found out is that GAME is really all about me. If I think something is cool (like making a social circle in my highschool) than I am only not cool when I am not striving towards that goal. Tell yourself that if you lose motivation because of your fear of rejection. That's the key! You need to value your own opinion over others.

LMK if you have any other ?s

I had always thought that avoiding the uncool people was how you got respect and stayed at a stable mentality, but now I'm starting to feel like eveyrones got a story to tell. I only avoid people now if they're unhappy and unwilling to change their lives. For me, those are the rejects, and the uncool people, and the unfortunate thing is that can be anybody. I will try to do what I can to give them advice, but beyond that, I've got to help myself.

Your post really spoke to me PHATTY, I'll build on your post a little more later.

U dont need the teacher's respect unless the class respects the teacher. Same thing goes for everybody else.
You need respect from the respected. Respect is given to those that demand it. So dont take sh!t from anybody. Make sure you can stand up for yourself. I would join a martial arts club if i was you. Not for hte rep, but for the benefits to your health and your confidence.

If u wanna make cool friends just start smoking weed. since it helps u relax it'll become easier to get to know the person you're with if you're both high. This will help you bond in order to get a good long-lasting friendship! Just choose your friends wisely because most will turn out to be backstabbers. That's just how the world is, whether ur smoking weed or drinking tea.

Joining a private school it'll become easy for you to bond, because it's a select group of people forced to be around each other. I'm sure you won't have to worry.

I would stear clear of the rejects though. Don't worry about being a superficial *******, everybody in high school is an *******.

Thanks for the martial arts advice, I'm really trying to get into Jiu-Jitsu at the moment. As for the weed comment, thanks but I don't need to smoke trees to keep relaxed. I'm past that stage now, smoking with girls is especially annoying when I always thought it would be a free ticket to a lay. Lol at the last comment. Appreciate it man.

Building a social circle on your own is hard a fvck. I remember high school like it was yesterday. I'm 25 and I'm not the right one to give you advice but I can tell you what I didn't do. One when you are new to a school people naturally talk to you do what you can and talk back don't be scared to say what you've got to say. To ask people for help or advice it's best to find a couple people who are cool and ask them for help then. From then on branch out. By that I mean ask if they do anything or are in clubs. Never sell your self short. Don't put yourself down or think you won't be good at anything try everything now while you are still young

Now for a story. I hated moving to my new middle school I was a outcast who wore outdated clothes and was poor. One kid say hey Anthony why don't you join the football team cause. I sold myself short making excuses and just having a bad attitude. If I could have done it over I would make myself do it. I would have graduated. Yes, folks wuzzle is a high school dropout. I wish you the best ask don't be afraid branch out speak your mind who can hurt you now you are a god as a teenager.

hey dude, whether you feel like you're up to giving advice or not, fact is you did and I appreciate the gesture. Actually your post really makes a lot of sense, selling yourself short isn't the path to a DJ, having a bad attitude in general isn't that's what hurts people sometimes the most. Don't worry about it Wuzzle, you've found this site now and the question is how are you going to make use of it?



I really appreciate the comments everyone