"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How the **** did I just get LJBF'ded here.

S.Y.L

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Basically, I see this chick through my friend on new years, cuz they came to say hi on new years.

So about 3 days later, .I talk to my friend, and I ask her who she is and my friend gives me her number, and stuff.

The Next day, I text her, saying I'm her friends friend she met on new years, and stuff, we talked for a bit, got her on msn and facebook, then I'm like hey, we should hang out tommorow.

So another friend of mine, me and her all hung out at the mall, and it was boring as hell until my friend left, we sat around and talked and stuff, then she had to catch the bus. We kept going on about how much our town sucks and stuff, blah blah, how boring this mall was...

I walked her to the bus stop, and we sat down, she was sitting, almost on me, so we were touching, I then put my arm around her, and we have a goofy little convo, whispering to ourselves, i put my hand out and we were holding hands, then she put her head under my neck, we did this for about 10 min, while still saying goofy little stuff, such as, "your cold" and stuff. Her bus finally came, so She stood up, and looked in hugged her, and kissed her.

I go and walk for my mom to go pick me up on the other side of the mall, and I get a text saying "well that turned out to be just how i wanted", and we kept responding to each other, saying how the mall sucked, but everything turned out to be great at the end.

and shes like, don't tell our friend about anything cuz she want, im like ok, makes sense. She then later on that night was like, I enjoyed spending time with you, but I think we went a little too fast. She mentioned how she likes some other guy from her church still too.

Now shes like, I don't wanna lose any friendships or anything so, I think we should just be friends, and stuff, becuase weve only known eachother for about a week. And I dont understand, I ****in was delivering, everything perfectly, she was loving me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ok start being a little less "available" even if ur jacking off on your couch and playing Halo 3, and try callign her not text. give it some time and see if she starts wantign you
 

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It could just be a test. She was comfortable enough to get touchy and intimate with you, so don't take things too hard. Her IL is just low, right now this other guy has the upper hand. You can either stay persistent and raise her IL, be her friend, or ignore her. Chances are she's just testing you.
 

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I think it's just her, many girls act dumb wierd about stuff like this. Tell her it's aight if it is, that it's not if it isn't, and even if you agreed friends i would try to hook up next time you see her. You had A+ game it sounds like, k-closing and getting those texts after, but you win some you lose some no matter what.
 

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She basically explained it to me, that because of how I just met her, 4 days ago, she doesn't wanna get into a serious relationship quite yet as she doesn't know me. The other guy, shes known quite a bit longer, and goes to the same church as her and stuff right, so that makes her more comfortable. She doesn't know if he likes her even, so that could not work out in the end too.

I just agreed to be friends with her, she even said, if she gets to know me better, and stuff, she would consider being in a relationship in a month or two, she just doesn't know me yet.

Ill keep working the game though.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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S.Y.L said:
So another friend of mine, me and her all hung out at the mall, and it was boring as hell until my friend left, we sat around and talked and stuff, then she had to catch the bus. We kept going on about how much our town sucks and stuff, blah blah, how boring this mall was...
Alright,bare with me guys,this is my first ever post in the high school forum.
Ok,this is a problem. You said the two of you kept going on and on about how "boring" the mall was. That was an error my friend. Always remember:Women are EMOTIONAL. They want to "feel". The worst,absolute worst thing that you can allow to happen is for her to feel bored while she's in you're presence. In fact,you'd be better off making her feel anger than feeling bored. I'm not joking about that,I'm serious. This problem is this:Whatever emotion a woman feels while she's in your presence gets linked to you. So to her,if she feels bored while in your presence,then to her,you're boring. If she feels excited while in your presence,then to her,you're an exciting guy. That excuse she gave you about not wanting a relationship with you because she's only known you for 4 days is bogus. You know that,right?



S.Y.L said:
and shes like, don't tell our friend about anything cuz she want, im like ok, makes sense. She then later on that night was like, I enjoyed spending time with you, but I think we went a little too fast. She mentioned how she likes some other guy from her church still too.
Yeah,her telling you about some other guy could be a test,but I doubt it. Girls only test guys their interested in.

S.Y.L said:
Now shes like, I don't wanna lose any friendships or anything so, I think we should just be friends, and stuff, becuase weve only known eachother for about a week. And I dont understand, I ****in was delivering, everything perfectly, she was loving me.
That's a lie. If she does want to be friends,if she really does,then it's not because she's only known you a week. It's because she doesn't "feel" any passion/chemistry towards you,hence all the "boring talk" about the mall made her feel bored when she was with you.
 

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Dude, from your post you linked boring to yourself in HER opinion because of you talking so much about NEGATIVE things (mall sucks, etc.). Gotta make her feel excitement, curiosity, sexual, FUN! Think about it...if you have 1 plate spinning and another one came along that was hotter would you stick with your old plate? Course not. She DIDN'T have a good enough time with you prolly cause of the boring ****. Don't care if you put your arm around her (you kissed n **** n YOU prolly thought it went better then she did no matter what she says) you didn't get her attraction to the necessary point.

Chalk it up to experience and keep doin ya thing.
 

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Alright, I had this in mind, next time I'm with her, I will think of something to actually do, instead of going to a ****ty mall, with no stores in it at all.

Ill keep up the Kino and stuff as usual, im good at that.
 
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