"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How soon do you guys delete matches from online dating? Tinder, etc.

harrison9876

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Just curious...

Normally, if I match from someone on Tinder, I delete if there is NO response; the convos don't go anywhere; or she won't give up # to get away from the nonsense texting conversation.

When it came to the "normal" way of meeting women, I used to be in the habit of nexting waaaaaaay too soon...so curious if many guys here delete quickly...or save the match for a bit to engage at a later time?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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oldmanofthesea

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Back when I was using OLD, I NEVER had an old match reach back out through the app.

The closest thing I've had is when I did get a date, it went well, I got her number during the date, and then a second date didn't happen, I would occasionally but extremely rarely get a text from her weeks later. But that was a text, not a message through the app.

But I never bothered un-matching in the app. No point. Doesn't hurt you to leave them there. But it really doesn't matter.
 

flowtheory

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I never discard previous matches, even if they don’t respond. No harm in keeping them around. I have dug in to the bottom of the pile before and been on a date with an old match. More potential upside than downside.

I only know of women who unmatch often because they’re constantly taking inventory.
 

Who Dares Win

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I delete them when they dont bother to reply in reasonable time, show lack of interest/respect during the conversation or I find myself doing all the work while they put obstacles.

Basically anytime Im at discomfort at a gut level, you gut can clearly tell a girl looking for being assured from a girl only wasting time and boosting her own ego.

Im surely not gonna be a random guy on some girls list of orbiters, nowadays they take screenshots and brag about it too much.

Btw girls that dont show a lil bit of interest in the beginning are usually a waste of time ime.
 
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