"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How should i take advantage of this?

djweses89

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Ok, here goes. I've been on this site for about 9 months now and ive improved dramaticlly, I normally do not have any problems with making moves having girls hang out with me (which lately i have not to lie) and idk just overall ive improved my dating life a whole lot. Now the situation I'm in is one i havn't been so great at, there is this very attractive girl ive been trying to work my game on. Shes very interesting outgoing funny not shy at all def. kind of girl I'm into. We talk a lot i called her for the first time last night for the first time things went well. She even really wants to hang out with me, and we are planning on it soon like this weekend soon. Now the only issue is she has a boyfriend, and because of that she seems like she is in kind of a loyality shell, for example when i negg certain kind of jokes on her like when we was talking bout getting in her hot tub i was like have you ever done it in a hot tub and she was like no and i told her we should (shes very sexual in a way too) and she responded lol idk mabey, haha jk jk. And then for another example i tell her i need a neck massage she should help me out and shes like no never , haha jk jk jk. And her responses like that kind of have me confused, now i am suppost to go to her house or something like that this weekend and I'm not sure if i should try and make any moves if so how i would go about that because of the b/f situation. and if not what should i do about this whole cluster**** im in lol so please someone who has been in this situation or something like this or someone that can give great advice help me out on this one.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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just so suave

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hmm tricky...before u make any moves on her, try some kino and see how she responds to it. if the kinos working then go on to do the kiss test, and see how things go from there. if she responds negatively to the kino, try it again after about 30minutes, and if she responds negatively again, id leave it at that until shes out of her relationship, and pick up things from there :)
 

Touchout

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I've been in a situation like this before, it seems like girls in relationships are always the most flirty...


Anyway, is it just going to be you and her hanging out? If it's just the two of you at her house she definitely wants you. As for what you should do, well that's really up to you. Personally if a girl is in a relationship I'll casually flirt but not pursue anything.
 

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IMO, imagine if you were the guy who's girl was about to be stolen, what anger, bitterness, and contempt you would feel, the pain, the shock. I don't recommend making a move if you know for a fact she's happy and in a good relationship. If she is unhappy and you know she's looking for someone else, try it, but otherwise think about the person on the other end.
 

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Lol whenever a guy posts here saying someone else is making moves on his GF everyone says "what a loser!! beat him up!!" etc etc but when someone wants to take a gf everyones like "w00t ur leetsauce!! that girls BF is such a loser if she wants u then take her!!"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Touchout

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DamHE said:
Lol whenever a guy posts here saying someone else is making moves on his GF everyone says "what a loser!! beat him up!!" etc etc but when someone wants to take a gf everyones like "w00t ur leetsauce!! that girls BF is such a loser if she wants u then take her!!"

Actually we're saying nothing like that... we're saying he shouldn't pursue that girl
 

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DamHE said:
Lol whenever a guy posts here saying someone else is making moves on his GF everyone says "what a loser!! beat him up!!" etc etc but when someone wants to take a gf everyones like "w00t ur leetsauce!! that girls BF is such a loser if she wants u then take her!!"
What the hell have you been reading? That isn't anything constructive but spam. :nono:

To get back on track i'm almost in the same situation. This girl is always triing to talk to me but whenever she sees me in school she acts shy (because she dosn't want to have her bf spot us). I havn't got her number yet but will get it the next time I see her out of school. I'm going to play it slow because there relation ship seems really happy. But When he leaves her I will be next in line.:woo:
 
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