"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How should I respond to this (quick read)

Brighty

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What's your guys' standpoint on paying for prom? I figure if I'm dropping $200+ dollars for one night with a girl I'm not even in a relationship with is considered beyond retarded. So, I'm talking to this girl who I'm taking (we aren't in a relationship together).


Brighty: I was talking to Jeff and he thinks I should buy your ticket for you... then again its Jeff (known as a chode) so I'm not convinced.

Girl A: I think you should! Its kind of your job haha



How should I respond to this? Should I cave and end up buying her ticket for her, but play it off as making her qualify herself to me ("Well, what are some reasons why I should? ;)") or should I keep steadfast and tease her about it. If I should do the latter, what's a polite way to put it that I don't feel like I should spend $200 on her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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Tickets to your prom are $200? If you didn't want to pay for her, why did you ever bring it up in the first place? What did you think she would say? Think before you speak.
 

Brighty

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
Tickets to your prom are $200? If you didn't want to pay for her, why did you ever bring it up in the first place? What did you think she would say? Think before you speak.
Why would tickets to prom be $200? No, they're $50, I'm just talking about the entire cost. And she brought it up first, but that was the other day and this is my conversation with her today. Try not to be such a ****.
 

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I've told my boys to ask them out on a date a couple months before prom. If they don't want to date then, they aren't worth dropping $200 on for the prom. Since you've already asked her and don't seem to be dating her?don't know. I DO know a mother of 2 girls who have/are going to about 5 proms-hanging around facebook and getting asked to go by guys[they make sure to flirt with guys who have proms on different nights]. SO these girls are in a competition to "collect prom dates" and these chumps don't know any different.
 

frisco

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Buy the tickets, tell her that you tooled your mom, dad into buying them for both of you give her a high five, then be done with the whole thing. Its really not that big of a deal
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Daddy The Pimp

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Fvck our standpoint. Can't you think for yourself ?

And you set the frame of asking her if you should buy and gave value to her opinion.

You could have done this.


Brighty said:
Brighty: I was talking to Jeff and he thinks I should buy your ticket for you... what a fvcking chode he is. I was thinking that you would by the ticket for both of us :D

Girl A: confused as fvck * thinking about sucking your c0ck *
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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Brighty said:
And she brought it up first, but that was the other day and this is my conversation with her today. Try not to be such a ****.
Okay so she brought it up first. That was definitely not made clear at the beginning which spawned my comment. How badly do you want to go to prom with this girl and how much do you care about money (or the concept of having to pay)? Only you know if it's worth it. Will she pay herself if you don't?
 
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