How should I rekindle the conversation

[L4keguy]

So I met a girl at the end of the spring semester, that is honestly the hottest girl I have really had a chance with. To top that off she is brilliant, and in a very hard major. To say I am attracted to her is an understatement.

I have however, learned through unfortunate experience that making it seem that you are too interested too fast is a major turn off. I played the game pretty well for the week or so that we had before we both left (university) for the summer to towns that are too far to visit. I took her out on a date that went fairly well, as well as we got a couple of each other's friends to hang out one night all as a group. We were texting on a regular basis and everything was going really well. We both headed home and daily texting continued for about a week and a half. Then it slowed to a couple a day. Then a couple texts every few days. And now we haven't texted in about a week. I'm trying to match her frequency on texting without seeming too needy. I started up convos with other girls too keep my mind off her but it doesn't work.

I want to keep a very light and friendly conversation line open until about August when we return and I can really rekindle things in person (I feel in person is much easier to really gain attraction than over a phone). How can I reopen the line of communication without seeming needy?

All advice is welcome. Thanks.

 

[Bingo-Player]

that is honestly the hottest girl I have really had a chance with.

this is a problem and you cant start playing the "game" with her until you decide that infact she isnt the hottest girl youve had a chance with

shes just A hot girl that you MAY have a chance with .....one of many and if it dosent work out so what your life isnt going to end women are not unique

anyway id leave it a few weeks now and then drop her a line on FB which is more casual than texting

 

[El Payaso]

To be honest, I don't know either dude because I was in a bit of the same situation as you. Met a girl, had a date but she had to go back home for the summer after that.

 

[narcissist]

You're going to keep texting her until august when you'll finally see her in person? Yet you dont want to come accross as needy? Pfft come on man.

If you know you'll see her in august just wait until then to rekindle things. What is the point of texting her for three months without seeing her? You are likely to fxck things up by doing that. My advice: dont text her, just wait till you see her in person in august. You won't seem needy and you won't put your self in a situation where you'll likely fxck things up.

In these next three months better yourself relentlessly. That is what you should focus on. So that when she sees you in august she won't believe her eyes and you will be irresistible to her.

 

[VladPatton]

Diagnosis: Acute Oneitis

Leave it alone. You can't just keep texting her for 3 months. You have to let these girls go when they are far away or loose interest, no matter how hot they are. You'll go crazy if you don't. What if she texts you for 3 months, then shows up with her new boyfriend? You'll feel like hammered dog shıt, and you wasted your entire summer. Hot girls are beyond fickle. You think she was thinking about you while 5 different dudes railed her till August? No.

Let it go, and mac up a fun girl you can spend a great summer with. She's out there 99.9% guaranteed.

 

[Uncharted]

Here are my assumptions:

You are young (since you're in college)
You're good looking (since a "hot" girl is flirting with you and actually went out on a date with you)

Spend this summer with as many OTHER girls as possible. Then in August/September, reconnect with this girl. In the meantime, if she reaches out to you feel free to text a little. Other than that, keep yourself busy.

 

[Don-Kong]

Oneitis, infatuation fever. The girl you are thinking about does not exist. Not as you see her anyway. You have created her. She's pedestal high and you are down low and she's like a fire burning through your mind.
We've all been there. It's nasty. And it robs you of common sense, dignity and confidence. She's not the problem or the texting. Oneitis gives a person purpose. It gives a person dreams, hope, a better future. It's all lies my friend. Deceptive.