How should I proceed with this?

[Tongs]

Hello, all.

I have noticed a girl in my program in school, and she is in all of my classes. Whenever she is in class, I'll look her way, and if she catches me, I shoot her a smile. I always get one back. If she catches me as she walks by, we'll exchanges Hellos.

Recently, I posted an ad on craigslist (Missed Connections), just for something to do.

Whenever you are in class, which, unfortunatly, is not that often, I feel happier. There's something about you that does something to me. You're one of the only girls there, but you're one of the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life.

Being the way I am, I never have the balls to approach you and just say "hi". I hate being so painfully shy. Every time we make eye contact (which is every time you catch me looking your way), we exchange smiles and look the other way. Maybe in the fall when we are back in classes together, I'll just go for it. Maybe one day I'll find the courage. if anyone that knows her from classes put on by SITE, show her this. Hopefully she will know who I am, and maybe do what I never could.... break the ice.

Somehow, she saw it, and emailed me a small response to it:

You can always come and talk to me...

I've confirmed it to be her, because I do know her last name and looked it up in the student directory, which shows Name, email, and program of studies (and that was the only one that came up, so I know it to be her)

Now, I will not be seeing her until September, when I move back to school. I am a self-confirmed AFC, and am pretty new to this whole thing. I will be the first to admit I have low self-confidence, and the shyness resulting from it. At the moment, I canont approach a girl and say "hey, how's it going?" (I am working on this). Every girl I have been with in the past has been a result of a long friendship, and her making the first move.

So, a little help would be appreciated on this. Should I email her back, or wait ? If I email her back, what should I write? Or should I just stfu and leave the land of sosuave forever?

 

[Ace of Flames]

Sweet dude. Sounds like you've found a good girl, if she was kool with that whole "Everyone on the internet can see us talking" thing. lol

Ok, you can do a few things here. One, send her an email back, saying how you'd love to meet up and talk, soon. Then suggest a coffee date or some other date where you can talk, and a time. That's it. When she responds with a yes, respond with an ok, then don't get in touch again till the date.

Two, which may work better for you, is to wait till September. Just send her an email like "Ok great! I've got lots of stuff going on during the summer, so once school starts up again, we'll definately go out and have some fun." Simple and to the point. And from now till then, work on your game. Mainly, getting over your shyness and developing more confidence. Don't worry too much about actually picking up girls right now, since you already have one here!

No matter which way you go about it, remember this: There's no need to be nervous or shy, because, by responding to you the way she did, you KNOW she likes you, or at the very least is willing to spend time with you. Don't start thinking junk like "Does she like me? What if she doesn't? Oh no, I'm not sure! etc etc". That never helps.

 

[Tongs]

Thanks for the reply.
Bump.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

This is SO going to blow up in your face.

 

[Tongs]

And if it does, I have lost nothing by trying.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

And if it does, I have lost nothing by trying.

But you gained even less because at your own admission you have no clue when it comes to girls!! You basically just told her how much of a pu$$y you are and how you have no confidence. Don't expect her to be all over you now. Everyone needs to start somehow, go read the Bible and be reborn.



PIMP

 

[Krang!]

Dude - hehe - that was one AFC'ish ad! Can't believe you got the response you did and didn't freak her out - cudos!
Still, by spilling your heart out like that she will have the upper hand big time when you guys meet and you will be all nervous and weird. If you keep getting smiles from a girl at school and you like her go talk to her dammit!!! Anyways, seeing that she is into you it's not to late to grow a pair and make it work - but judging from your ad you probably got pretty bad one'itis to go along with that shyness, not a good combination

 

[blinkwatt]

Ok look plain and simple. You didnt do it the best way to get her attention,but none-the-less you got it...Now dont blow it. Just grab your balls and say "f Yeah". Thats it,your a man,act like one. Go up to her and talk to her,say "Hi,Im (insert name)" she will say her name and say nice to meet you. Just ask her how she is doing and take it from there. Yes it will be weird,but how weird you make it will all be up to you. Do not bring up the ad you put up on craigslist.

 

[Tongs]

Thanks for the good advice, blink.

Bump so some more people can laugh at this