How should I proceed with the girl I'm ignoring?

[Georgia912]

I've been friends with this girl for a couple years. We were just good friends. Talk here and there as friends. Recently we started talking more and more. I started getting the feels for her. But she told a mutual friend she only likes me as a friend. So I started ignoring her. For the past three days that I've been ignoring her, she has called me and texted me at least three times everyday asking me why I keep ignoring her. But I keep ignoring it. How should I proceed? Should I tell her how I feel about her?

 

[GS750]

Well, you're deeply in the friend-zone if it's been a couple of years. Ignoring her won't accomplish anything. If you're into her, you're going to have to make a move. Don't "tell" her anything. Spilling your guts about how you feel is not a good idea. You have to show her. This will do two things:

1. She will know you like her more than a friend (my bet is she already does).
2. It will tell you, most importantly, where you stand.

This is why once you're in the friend-zone its damn near impossible to escape. If she rejects you, then blow her off or don't make any time for her.

 

[Thorninmyside]

DO NOT tell her how you feel. EVER. Erase those thoughts from your mind. When you get a girl that feels the same about you, your feelz for this chick will seem like nothing, so spare yourself the humiliation of fessing up to a friend.

If she's actually a valued friend you should quit ignoring her too. Why punish her because YOU went and got oneitis for her? She didn't lead you on. Just write her back and tell her you've been busy with some stuff and hope she's well, and sure - de-prioritize her from your own thinking process because you're setting yourself up for pain by pursuing. Hell, you could even use her for social proof, to set you up with her friends, wing woman for you. No need to write off a friend over a crush. Just take control of it and get past it today.

Then, get busy talking to other women, exercising, filling up your time that you'd normally sit around and think of her.

 

[Desdinova]

How should I proceed?

Write her off for a minimum of two years and date other women. You'll forget about her as soon as you stick your d1ck into a woman who's interested in you.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Write her off for a minimum of two years and date other women. You'll forget about her as soon as you stick your d1ck into a woman who's interested in you.

This is good advise... It doesn't make sense after someone allows conjugation and you see it doesn't take hurdles or barriers to get into...

 

[Who Dares Win]

Since attraction is not a choice I dont see how she can be guilt of something, you're mad at her cause she doesnt feel for you the same you feel for her.

As long as she wasnt using her for free drinks, as an emotional tampoon or a driver I dont see why you wanna treat her like that.

So in your place I would just write her back saying that you had importan stuff to do or some problem with your family that is now fixed and restart as nothing happened.

If instead you value nothing her friendship but it was just a way to planned to escalate, simply retreat gradually from dealing with her.