"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How should i move on with this convo????

Jokerlsk

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One of my buddies at school was trying to hook me up w/ one of his "girl" friends last night through facebook and txt messaging. He's really AFC, but he's a good friend and the girl he tried to hook me up w/ was alright. here's the ending. She doesn't have a cell phone though.
Me
i don't count my mom as my friend
3:20am Her
lol
me enither
*neither
he
hey
nice meeting you and all
3:21am Me
i guess we should be best friends then
kl
3:21am Her
im going to go sleep
night
3:21am Me
alright night
3:21am Her
call me when you get a real friend
jk
night
3:22am Me
i don't have your number
you should give it to me if you want me to call you so bad
3:22am Her
lol
3:22am Me
better yet i'll gibe you mine
give*
3:22amHer
no your the one who wants to call me
3:22am Her
no
im good
if you need a friend that bad ask ian for his or mine number
ngiht
3:22am Me
lol
3:25am Her
lol
btw
dont have a cell phone
3:26am Me
Well you can always call me
3:26am Her
thats why i dont have a number
i thinkits weird forr a girl to call the guy
3:26am Me
i don't mind
3:26am Her
i mnd
3:26am Me
lol
i would find it flattering
haha
3:26am Her
lol
3:27am Elliott
you could just call me and i'll say hey first so it's like i'm calling you
3:27am Her
plus i just emt you
3:27am Me
met*
is what you meant to say
3:27am Her
yeh
but no
you get it from (my friend) or if you really want it then
3:28am Me
haha
3:28am Her
you can keep talking to me online
not tonight
3:28am Me
i think i might do that
3:28am Her
ok
well i g2g tonight
3:28am Me
you seem pretty kl
night
3:28am Her
or today
lol thanks?
night
3:28am Me
yeah
night
3:28am Her
bye

That was only the ending. I've never met her, but i think i did an alright job. She was kinda boring, but warmed up to me in the end. even though i failed to get the number close it seemed like she wanted me to get her number from my friend. Please comment and rate on how i did and give your opinion.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Zaraza

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seemed to me from that, that she wasnt really interested but instead a lil insecure and playing with you. she Didnt seem to give a **** lol
 

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Yeah, she was pretty sarcastic. I honestly was just seeing what i could get. she said something about having a 6'3 bf. But w.e she messaged me earlier today and i didn't respond.
 

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Guys this girl messaged me again today and was showing interest. we were flirting about how i was gonna take her to the movies on my bike or something . Then she said yeah that would be fun. Then there was a pause and one of my friends completely screwed me over. I kept checking in on him telling him how it was going, you know, telling him it was easy. He told me he would brb and his bro actually gave her the messags i sent my friend. So the girl starts questioning me. And this girl is really insecure because she's been hurt alot. So she asks me about why i think gaming her is "easy" And i just folded. All of my hard work just died right there. I don't even know what to do anymore.............. Please give me your advice
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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1. Next time don't text message like that. Read Rollo's post "Buffers" in the archives. Basically you CALL a girl to SET UP A DATE. No flirty phone conversations or text messages. It's impossible to "game" through text messages. You won't gain anything from it.

2.
And this girl is really insecure because she's been hurt alot.
Probably a good reason to not be pursuing her...

3. You should have responded to the girl by saying,

"Well 'easy' is just guy talk. All i meant was that i feel really comfortable around you and you are easy to talk to and laugh with. Sometimes girls intimidate me but for some reason I'm not intimidated by you".

Or something to that effect.

4. You don't need to brag to your friends about how "easy" gaming a girl is. Get your confidence from within!

All of my hard work just died right there.
Learn your lessons and move on buddy. You'll be fine...

Next time when the cuter, more mature, more confident young lady comes along, you'll sweep her off her feet!
 

Jokerlsk

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I wasn't gonna lie so i told her the truth and she forgave me. I still feel bad though. I don't like messing w/ people like that.
 

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Jokerlsk said:
I still feel bad though. I don't like messing w/ people like that.
Welcome to messing with women's minds....err....I mean making something happen with women :D
 

Jokerlsk

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I don't think i have what it takes to be a dj anymore. I'm not an afc but i can't just mess with peoples emotions for my own gain.
 
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