"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How Should I Have Handled This?

amnbyrd

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Alright so for the past month or so Ive been talking/seeing this girl. Last date was a few weeks back and it could not have gone any better. But this girl has a bit of an emotional problem as she was in a 4 yr relationship and is still hung over the guy and wants to be single. Anyways today we went out to this classic car lot-we both love cars. Afterwards I asked her to the movies. We get tickets and weve got an hour to kill so we hit up circuit city where she runs into a friend(a guy but def nothing to worry about, he's the type thats too nice and gets friendzoned) She ends up inviting him to the movie. In my head Im like wtf but I kept my cool and didnt react badly towards it. We see the movie she pretty much ignored me the whole time and afterwards we go to his place which was right next door to watch another movie that he bought earlier. We watch that and afterwards I drop her off at her place. Was a quiet ride home. So Ive already deleted her number and think Ive been friendzoned for whatever reason. Do you guys think I shouldve handled the night any differently?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dbot

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Have you kissed her ever? Are your intentions with her clear, or has she always thought of you as just a friend?

If a girl says she doesn't want a relationship, that means she doesn't want a relationship with you. That should be clue #1

She invites a friend along on your date. This means she either didn't see it as a date (either she's not interested or hasn't considered you on a romantic level), or she's just uncomfortable being alone with you. There's clue #2

I wouldn't invest anymore time into her.

The dreaded "friend zone" can be avoided super easily by simply making your intentions clear from the beginning. First date? Go for the kiss. ALWAYS. There will be nooo questioning your intentions then. Even go for a little make-out session if you can, but if not, you still better fcking kiss her. We're not in the 50s anymore. There is absolutely no girl in existence who wouldn't want a guy to kiss her on the first date. THEY EXPECT IT. Make your intentions loud and clear from day 1, and you will never have any issues with chicks putting you in the friend zone.
 

slcKing

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Yea NEXT HER!!!!! that was real disrespectful for her to invite another guy to the movies, if she wanted to be more than friends she wouldn't have invited him.
 
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