How Should I Have Handled this Situation (&She's broke and always asking me to spend)

[Dante420]

Please take some time to respond to this with any wisdom you have because EVERYONE on this forum will come across these type of girls and we will all need to decide whether it's worth it


Alright so for starters, if you smoke weed and you feel like a girl is being disrespectful, immature, or just plain wreckless in her attitude towards you smoke-up before you hang out with her, wear some cologne and sunglasses because you will instantly recognized disrespect towards you when your high, and I mean instantly.

Good qualities: So this girl became my girlfriend because she brought up the subject of what everyone was asking, so I just made it official because she displayed a lot of great qualities - you ask her to do something she does it - ie. get up and turn off the light, go downstairs grab something, etc. She's hot and being with her draws me a lot of attention.


Bad qualities: She's broke and doesn't mind asking me to spend money on her. For example, she's hungry and wants to go to Dunkin' Donuts (done, I wanted a hot chocolate), two days before that she asked me to go buy her make-up (I said no every time she asked, she asked repeatedly) - then yesterday was almost the straw that broke the camels back

So we were bored at her house and she didn't wanna go see the movie I wanted to see (not to take her out but because I wanted to see the movie) - while she's offering suggestions for things for us to do she asks DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT TO EAT - this raised a red flag, like I said she's always broke and I took her out to eat the day before. I said "No, not hungry" (she just fed me at her house). Then she suggests we go rent a movie at Blockbuster - and so I agree - I end up renting two movies and she starts acting really childish and immature as well as disrespectful when she doesn't get her way on a movie I'm paying for - she wanted to see Bring It On and I laughed at her and then told her straight up "Why would I rent a movie I don't wanna see" she gave me an attitude and then there was a silent ride home - later I told her I wasn't happy with her behavior.

I was thinking of breaking up with her and then changed my mind and that's why I brought it up, I figure I should give her a second strike -


advice please. Sorry this was a long read

 

[Cure]

You were being a bit of an ass with the dvd choice.

Sure you are paying but you are still watching it with her, you could surely have found a movie you both wanted to see and avoided all this?

Dont take "being alpha rargh" to far and piss a girl off for no reason, its needless.

Cure.

 

[Dante420]

You were being a bit of an ass with the dvd choice.

Sure you are paying but you are still watching it with her, you could surely have found a movie you both wanted to see and avoided all this?

Dont take "being alpha rargh" to far and piss a girl off for no reason, its needless.

Cure.

I did find movies we both wanted to see, mutual decisions based on mutual interests - gangster movies and a classic she recommended. But why should I pay to see some dancing movie that I would never wanna watch?

 

[Dante420]

Also this girl hasn't been going out with me for a full week yet and she already asked me what I'm getting her for Christmas and then went on to suggest I get her a new iPod. . . . this girl is getting another week to shape-up.

 

[Solomon]

Dante

I've noticed your threads a lot as of late, it seems like every situation you seem to post about, I don't know if you want attention or what. But personally i see your inner confidence (inner game) lacking a bit.
I think you should focus on yourself right now, and get your inner confidence handled before you step out there, pick up some hobbies mate, you putting in mad time on SS these days. Yeah you meeting women, cool, but there is more to this DJ shiit then girls, once you get your inner self handled. Half of these situations won't even phase you cause you will know what to do.

just my thoughts

 

[sodbuster]

WHY is she always broke? Thats more important than any other question. Is she a spender,over materialistic,or a woman who wants her man to provide for her? It's all about her belief systems.Dig down and find out her beliefs,then see if you can live with them. That will give you the answer about dating or breaking it off.

 

[The Champ]

You should have just got the movie and made her happy. Why does it matter? Because you aren't supposed to watch the thing. Within 30 minutes you should be doing the sideways tango.

I don't care if she wants to rent Bambi.

 

[Joe Stud]

take her out for a burger, slam it down her throat, followed by something else an hour later. whats the big deal?

 

[SuSHI]

You're kidding me right? You like being with her because she is your slave and is attractive enough to get you attention from others? That reeks of insecurity. And that weed thing, I dont even understand what it has to do with the thread, but the fact that you have to hide it with others means you are either ashamed of yourself, or afraid of other people's view of you. Either way, grow some balls. As for the girl, dump her a$$.

 

[trent81]

Fuvk is wrong with you? You're not going to get a movie a girl wants because you are paying for it? Grow the fuvk up. Most people here don't even have girlfriends. Who gives a ****v if you are paying. The girl is broke and she's giving you sex in return. You piece of shivt. Learn how to be a man, she is not asking for rent money, she wants to rent a movie she wants to watch. You are the type of guy that doesn't deserve a girlfriend. Grow the fuvk up.

 

[teacha]

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Fuvk is wrong with you? You're not going to get a movie a girl wants because you are paying for it? Grow the fuvk up. Most people here don't even have girlfriends. Who gives a ****v if you are paying. The girl is broke and she's giving you sex in return. You piece of shivt. Learn how to be a man, she is not asking for rent money, she wants to rent a movie she wants to watch. You are the type of guy that doesn't deserve a girlfriend. Grow the fuvk up.

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this is the reason why this site is more like a joke, some people still think if females give up their punnany they are doing us a favor. Its not like they dont enjoy being fukked, matter of fact they enjoy it more than we guys do; so we THE ONES ACTUALLY DOING HER A FAVOR! besides its your money do whatever the hell you want with it, let her get her own.

 

[Dante420]

You're kidding me right? You like being with her because she is your slave and is attractive enough to get you attention from others? That reeks of insecurity. And that weed thing, I dont even understand what it has to do with the thread, but the fact that you have to hide it with others means you are either ashamed of yourself, or afraid of other people's view of you. Either way, grow some balls. As for the girl, dump her a$$.

When did I say I was with her because of that? That's a piece of the pie my friend, you think someone like me isn't going to recognize the increase in IOI's that I've received since being with this girl? Matter of fact I'm so confident I've taken the negative looks (from girls that I use to talk to and that dislike her) as compliments. Further thing from insecure (interior and exterior) I'm confident to the core. I don't question myself, I just have questions and the questions I've asked have taken me a long way from where I started (didn't make out with a girl until I was 15). And my suggestion of hiding marijuana use is due to a social stigma our society holds against marijuana, believe it or not as a marijuana smoker you will cross it. I however smoked the weed with her, which clearly shows I wasn't hiding nothing.

Fuvk is wrong with you? You're not going to get a movie a girl wants because you are paying for it? Grow the fuvk up. Most people here don't even have girlfriends. Who gives a ****v if you are paying. The girl is broke and she's giving you sex in return. You piece of shivt. Learn how to be a man, she is not asking for rent money, she wants to rent a movie she wants to watch. You are the type of guy that doesn't deserve a girlfriend. Grow the fuvk up.

You know your the definition of an Average Frustrated Chump right? Sex in return? :crackup: Just sign off.

Seriously who the hell goes out to rent a movie with someone and picks something that you 100 percent don't wanna see? It's a mutual decision, which is more than generous when I'm paying.

 

[trent81]

Grow the fuvk up. It's okay to buy a god damn movie for a girl. I have more experience than you and your dad combined, and I know one thing. There are two types of guys I will never converse with, one of them are cheap guys. I can only imagine what women think of cheap pieces of shivt like you. Its a four dollar movie and you trying to make a point? Get the fuvk out of here. People have real serious problems. Not this bull****. You are the definition of a dumb ass. You have a girl that likes you and you're worried that she's broke. Which is what women worry about by the way, you feminine cok sucvker. Wait till she asks you for rent, then worry about her being broke. Dumb fuvk.

 

[trent81]

Smoke some more weed, it will make you smarter. You may even find out that you are gay. Now there's a vision that's worth the price of the joint right? Better you find out now, than later. You may be happier.

 

[Dante420]

Smoke some more weed, it will make you smarter. You may even find out that you are gay. Now there's a vision that's worth the price of the joint right? Better you find out now, than later. You may be happier.

Is that how your experience with it went? Or were your experiences more like "I can have any girl I want. . . . . . as long as I got some coke in my pocket for them"

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=164585

Grow the fuvk up. It's okay to buy a god damn movie for a girl. I have more experience than you and your dad combined, and I know one thing. There are two types of guys I will never converse with, one of them are cheap guys. I can only imagine what women think of cheap pieces of shivt like you. Its a four dollar movie and you trying to make a point? Get the fuvk out of here. People have real serious problems. Not this bull****. You are the definition of a dumb ass. You have a girl that likes you and you're worried that she's broke. Which is what women worry about by the way, you feminine cok sucvker. Wait till she asks you for rent, then worry about her being broke. Dumb fuvk.

Says the man arguing in defense of the women who wants to watch this with you: http://en.academic.ru/pictures/enwiki/66/Bring_It_On_Again_DVD_cover.jpg

On my money? When I'm already renting two other movies? I don't think so. I hold no interest in a pre-teen cheerleading movie, get your lifestyle re-evaluated. Here you may be called an AFC but offline your known as a trick, you equate getting ***** with the amount of money you spend. You can call me cheap all you want, while I'm out rocking my Versace shades getting places with the numbers I'm getting maintaining a high value. You can bring up some gay talk like your in middle school, but at the core your possibly talking about your own insecurities.

I'll give you an easy cop out though, I'm 17 years old - and I'd be willing to bet I've held down more at times then you have.

You watch Sex and the City with the girls you take home?

 

[ENIGMA16]

Seriously who the hell goes out to rent a movie with someone and picks something that you 100 percent don't wanna see? It's a mutual decision, which is more than generous when I'm paying.

I agree with this to an extent. In a relationship sometimes it's necessary to do something like rent a movie that you 100% don't want to see because you're compromising with them, and in a healthy relationship they will return the favor.

If this girl was whining because you wouldn't rent a movie that you completely didn't want to see, and was not compromising with you, then you have to ask yourself whether that's a one-time event or if it's symptomatic of a deeper issue (i.e. that she's selfish). If I was in that situation I would just ignore her protests, though, or tell her that you're going to rent a movie that you both want to watch, and I'd say it without being upset and in a tone that she knows you're serious, because you are. And that should settle it.

Anyways, why doesn't she have any money? Is she unemployed?

You watch Sex and the City with the girls you take home?

My ex got me hooked on that show.

 

[Dante420]

I agree with this to an extent. In a relationship sometimes it's necessary to do something like rent a movie that you 100% don't want to see because you're compromising with them, and in a healthy relationship they will return the favor.

If this girl was whining because you wouldn't rent a movie that you completely didn't want to see, and was not compromising with you, then you have to ask yourself whether that's a one-time event or if it's symptomatic of a deeper issue (i.e. that she's selfish). If I was in that situation I would just ignore her protests, though, or tell her that you're going to rent a movie that you both want to watch, and I'd say it without being upset and in a tone that she knows you're serious, because you are. And that should settle it.

Anyways, why doesn't she have any money? Is she unemployed?

This is my point that crowd pleasers like Mr. 'Nothing to Lose' up there don't get.

I been going out with her for a week, and she has no money because were 17. The only benefit I could see to renting that movie is falling asleep and waking up with my **** in her, which could have been done with or without that movie. Thanks for the advice, very on point.

 

[ENIGMA16]

If she's 17 then it sounds like some immature selfishness. And why doesn't she have a job at 17? I had one when I was 14, ffs. In fact I don't think I knew anyone that didn't work by the time they were 17 (well, the exceptions were kids who had rich parents, but they'd just get money from their parents whenever they asked so they don't really count).