How should I handle?

[NatureGuy]

I'd be interested in advice on how to
handle the following conduct from a
woman I've been seeing for several months.
Last week we were supposed to meet
at 7:00 but she shows up about 15
minutes late. Not so bad by itself,
but this week she was supposed to
call me on Monday, but didn't , called
Tuesday afternoon instead. She was
in fact busy, and she did apologize only after I brought it up, but I wonder about
it. Maybe I shouldn't be concerned at
all?

 

[Blaaaaat]

Need waaaay more info.

What dou you mean by "seeing"? Are you dating, are you trying to get a date, do you go out as friends? Have you kissed, better, did you laid her?

How long is "a couple of months"?

Is this behavior consistent, in the couple of months that you were dating (i hope it is dating) she has shown more of this behavior?

 

[Borgia]

Man

You need to chill out and play the game a little


Borgia

 

[xblitz44x]

Yeah I agree. Relax. She's not cancelling dates on you. This is a case where your insecurities are present and it's causing you to second guess her every action. Tone it down. If you keep a negative, insecure head you're going to automatically create - without even realizing it - negative, insecure actions.

 

[NatureGuy]

Thanks xblitz44x. I'm probably
overreacting.
Blaaat: Yes , this is a dating relationship,
sexual, exclusive.

 

[MindNsoul]

Well show her your time is valuable by playing the game.

If she cancels on you next time, DON'T CALL HER FIRST. Let her call you and bring it up, and if she doesn't bring it up make it look like you forgot also and tell her some story about how you went out to a bar or with some friends that night and had a great time.
this will show her that your time is valuable and that life for you is very fun without her.

Also keep the first phone conversation after she did that REALLY short (say 3-5 minutes).

 

[MindNsoul]

I dissagree. Some woman tend to get too comfortable in relationships once they know they have you "wraped up".

I'm not much into playing games with people I'm dating but I also know that untill you're married NEVER ALLOW THEM TO BE 100% SERCURE AND COMFORTABLE TO THE POINT OF YOU NOT GETTING THE RESPECT YOU DESERVE.

If you're a man that's dating, I'm sure certain things are expected form you. So you should make it clear you have expectations as well, like don't f$ck with my schedule (you're valuable time). As a man you're always allowed to be up to 20 minutes late even without calling ahead. As a woman she's only got 10, after which she should explain her problem.

This will help clarify and keep showing you as the mature responcible one in the relationship.


Remember you're a Valuable man, you can't have other woman realizing this yet the one that's yours is discrediting it.

I say you always make sure she knows what she has.

Originally posted by NatureGuy
Thanks xblitz44x. I'm probably
overreacting.
Blaaat: Yes , this is a dating relationship,
sexual, exclusive.

 

[WillieSacks]

Whatever xblitz44x said is right on. I recently made the mistake of doing this. I was talking to this girl almost everyday for a month, all of a sudden she don't call for 2 DAYS and I panic and start acting like a biitch. Now I feel dumb, just let it go.

 

[NatureGuy]

Every response has helped - thanks.
My conclusion: I'm probably overreacting
a bit , showing some insecurity.
MindNSoul has a good point though. I think she does feel pretty comfortable (which is good to a point) but she needs to respect my time and me too.
How to balance this without being
needy or controlling is the question I
suppose.