"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How should I handle this?

AlanB

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Or more to the point; how would a DJ handle this...

It isn't really an issue with getting this *****es number or anything like that. I wouldn't touch her with someone else's but I'd like your opinions.

Some girl, I don't really know her that well but she is friendly with a good friend of mine. We were all having a few drinks, she was there with her boyfriend and she got really drunk and was making a nuisance of herself, being confrontational with everyone etc. Me and a couple of the other guys responded by being a bit ****y and ribbing her a little, y'know "What have you been drinking...meths?!" Her boyfriend just looked a bit embarrased by her to be honest. Anyway, to cut a long story short she was pissing everyone off including my friend a little as he felt like he was in an awkward situation (he even took her away for a bit to try and talk to her) but at the end of the night, as she was leaving, she put something in my drink which made me feel pretty sick. I could handle her acting up and getting a bit too upset out of us basically just taking the mickey but as far as I am concerned, putting something in my drink (I wasn't looking and took a swig and my friend saw it so only told me after I had taken a gulp) was completely out of order. The thing is, it is likely I will see her around again. Should I just completely blank her or have a go at her and tell her that she owes me an apology AND a drink? Or should I just tell her boyfriend to have a word with her? I don't want to seem aggresive though, as I barely know the guy.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MacAvoy

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Do you really want her to buy you another drink after she spiked the last one? As for me, I would completely avoid this women and I would get my friends to do the same. She's a clear cut psycho if there ever was one.

I think your only asking for trouble if you call her out. You didn't even do anything to her and she spiked your drink, imagine what she'll do after you piss her off.
 

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Avoid this crazee b1tch like the plague. if you do come accross her when your out next, dont give her any attention or a second thought.

At the time when she spiked your drink, you should have said:

Excuse me, this drink tastes all wrong and my friend here says he saw you near it - is there anything I should be concerned about?

and leave it at that...
 

WesCottII

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"Honey, I appreciate the drink spike, but you're not my type."

I'd say something that got the whole group laughing her. Women hate it when their social status us diminished.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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AlanB

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WesCottII said:
I'd say something that got the whole group laughing her. Women hate it when their social status us diminished.
Well the thing was that she did that literally as she was leaving. My friend was the other side of the table and as I swigged my drink and made a face and said it tasted funny he came over and said that he saw her put something in it.

The problem was that we were taking the mick and laughing at her a little but that was because she was playing up the whole evening. No need for her to lack a sense of humour about it though.
 

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rofl, just leave the area where she's standing, create the party your self at another place.. never allow such a person to influence the night, most of the time they are emotionally displaced in such a manner you can not talk her out of it while she's drunk / intoxicated
 

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I think what I will probably do is next time I see her, I will just tell her that she was out of order the other night and that she embarrassed herself, her boyfriend and my friend and that she should have a word with herself. When I have seen her before she was sober and seemed ok so hopefully it was just a one off.
 
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