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How should i handle this

megel

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First of all hi to all of you guys/girls in here. My first post on these boards :)

To make a long story short, there is this blond who i want to have fun with. She has a BF, but is clearly into me (touching in a friendly matter, laughing even to my sh1tty jokes, complimenting me etc).
We had fun in a club couple of nights back (we weren't there by just the two of us but with bunch of friends).
So i separated the target and we were just dancing, flirting and having fun. I maybe should have (and would have) escalated heavy flirting from there, but got horribly ****blocked not by one, but three DUFFs. I managed to befriend two of them, but the third on was just such a b1tch, that i said fukk it and got myself some easier tail. And we didn't really see each other more that night.

So here's the question. How can i play this, that i wouldn't scare her away or end up in a LJBF zone. She gave me her nr, so i probably should call and ask her out. In what way do i need to do this, so that she doesn't get a quilt-trip because of her BF and decline.
And while you are at it, any ideas on how i should have handled those DUFFs?

I wouldn't even be asking this, but this girl is special :) Not in a "one-itis" way but i absolutely must have her at least for one night for reasons known only to me. :)

Please help me out.
 

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Call her and ask her if she wants to hang out.

Get her to come watch some movie with you at your place, you open a bottle of whine, be smooth, and make a move.
 

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You think it would be a good idea to arrange a date that is so... dateish? I was thinking that a "lighter" date should precede the one when i make a move. Like asking her to help me to pick a gift or a piece of clothing or smth. Maybe total an hour together or even less.

Remember, failure is not an option so i need to know what to do when she has some quilt about being quite shameless with me and decides not to play with fire any more.
 

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she has a bf...

make ur intentions clear that you like her, but that nothing will happen if she's still with the BF...

hwo things start is how they end.. if she cheats on him with u she'll cheat on u with somebody else..

dont go for girls that are taken, plenty of fish in the sea
 

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Yeah, a week a go a this one girl also had a BF. Five minutes later i was inside her.

And i am not looking for a relationship with her. She needs to show loads more value for me to even consider this (and yes, if she cheats then it automatically means that she's not LTR material). I just need at least one night with her. And her "BF" maybe just some summer fling for all i know.
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sav

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megel said:
Yeah, a week a go a this one girl also had a BF. Five minutes later i was inside her.

And i am not looking for a relationship with her. She needs to show loads more value for me to even consider this (and yes, if she cheats then it automatically means that she's not LTR material). I just need at least one night with her. And her "BF" maybe just some summer fling for all i know.
i understand where you are coming from, as long as you understand all the implications and you dont have your sights set on a LTR then its all good...
 
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