How should I handle this?

[Bigsnake]

I broke one of my rules about not trying for a chick in the same major as I am in since we see each other a lot and if things turned bad it would be strange.

Quick run down. Went for her and she's now screwing a "friend" of mine now. The part that pissed me off is he asked me and I told him "not yet, let me get a no first" and he still did it.

The problem is in class she still sits by me all the time and it just like throwing salt in a wound everyday. What's the best way to basically say please don't come around me? I hold my tongue to keep from being a total ******* about it but keep getting closer everyday.

 

[flexion_]

The girl doesn't even like you or care. Why should you? You can't be mad at the guy either - you didn't take action and you lost out.

 

[Doc Dogg]

Ahh! the betrayal of a friend stealing your girl!! I think we have all had to deal with this at one time or another. My advise is to just let it go and act like nothing happened. Whatever you do, don't tell her to not sit next to you, that's just a massive display of "loser" and things like that get around...

 

[Demon]

Went for her and she's now screwing a "friend" of mine now. The part that pissed me off is he asked me and I told him "not yet, let me get a no first" and he still did it.

The problem is in class she still sits by me all the time and it just like throwing salt in a wound everyday.

So you're pissed at your friend for doing what guys do and directing that bitterness on her?

Okay, realize that people screw. Fact of life.

As everyone ages, the chances of you finding someone who was not banging someone the day before lessens. I'm in situation right now in which I'm dating a girl who has a boyfriend. After every night out with her, I take her back to her place so she can get freaky with her boyfriend. That's simply the nature of women. They won't let go of one guy until they're ready to latch onto another. You just have to be persistent, consistently demonstrate yourself as the superior choice, ignore her sexual history, and ultimately refrain from overinvesting yourself. If you're the bigger man, you'll get a bigger piece of the pie.

As for your "friend", he was never your friend in the first place. Live and let go. No sense in getting cranky about some stranger who you'll never see again anyway. The stress isn't worth the squeeze.

 

[penkitten]

to hell with her man.
dont waste your time wanting someone who doesnt want you back.
go out there and find someone who cant get enough of YOU!

 

[CraigMack]

Why are you mad??? He is the one who had the balls to move in on the girl, while you sat back blowing love bubbles in the air at her.

Let it be a lesson and learn from it instead of hating.


I know this advice is hard to hear but eventually you will understand it.

 

[Bigsnake]

to hell with her man.
dont waste your time wanting someone who doesnt want you back.
go out there and find someone who cant get enough of YOU!

Exactly. I've already got another girl I'm going after. Just got back from seeing her actually.

And in fact, the night I saw the "friend" and the previously mentioned girl hooking up at MY F&%KING CONDO! I had some other chick in my bed a couple hours after they left. It's not like I didn't try with her but I just didn't have a lot of time to try with her and my friend did. Now it just pisses me off.

 

[typical]

Ok play it cool bro, you waited way too long to make a move on the chick and your mate went in quick and fast and got the job done, dont hate him for that, alls fair in dating.

You've been placed i the friend zone by the chick thats why she still hangs around you etc, use her as a stool to get other girls i.e as socialproof etc, but only do this if you havnt made any solid moves on her in previous meetings.

If your not man enough to do that then hell just make sure your always really late to clase by like 15 mins so you dont sit near her.

 

[Bigsnake]

Ok play it cool bro, you waited way too long to make a move on the chick and your mate went in quick and fast and got the job done, dont hate him for that, alls fair in dating.

You've been placed i the friend zone by the chick thats why she still hangs around you etc, use her as a stool to get other girls i.e as socialproof etc, but only do this if you havnt made any solid moves on her in previous meetings.

If your not man enough to do that then hell just make sure your always really late to clase by like 15 mins so you dont sit near her.

Thanks, I kind of figured it was because she thinks of me as a friend now.

I guess the reason I'm mad is I brought her around, he even asked me and I told him to wait, and he did it anyway. Now I'm questioning which friends I can even trust now. If I know a friend is going after a girl, then I'll let him go at it until he's done.