"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How should I handle this small approach situation?

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I met this girl about a week ago at freshman orientation. I never see her on campus at all, except two times between classes. We both are walking completely different directions. She smiles, I smile, and we keep going. With 5 minutes between classes, there isn't a lot of time to talk. Every time I've seen her, she's been on her cell phone.....


Anyway, I never got her number.... (I have no excuse) but that's what I'm looking to do. How should I approach the situation if she's on her phone, going the other way, with like 3 seconds of free time?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Flag her down, hand her your phone, and assume she'll know what to do.

If she doesn't understand, say something like, "Since you're always on your phone, I figure the only way to get in touch with you is with your number. Put it in."
 

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^^^ What he said. It's no joke.



Can use phone or paper and pen. All women are on cell phones. Because they're anxious when they don't have that social umbrella around them. Whatever they're used to having. That smile is IOI, so go for it, very low risk.


Another thing. Just because she's on the phone don't mean she won't talk to you. Try it out.
 

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Just Another Guy.... said:
Alright, that's what I'll try.

Stuntmann, how do you open the convo with her if she's on her phone though?
It would probably be best to ignore the phone entirely. If she wants to talk to you, she'll put them on hold/call them back.

If not... uh... do what I said before and walk away. No words required.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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