"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How should I handle this?? Sh!t test possibly?

baurman

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So this chick that I work with who I tried to hook up with a couple weeks ago. But she "LJBF" me. and I stopped showing interest. Told her she's not my type, yadda yadda. Still talk to her though but very minimal. She's an attention wh0re I know and the type of chick where if she doesn't get attention she'll want attention (that's how I think, cause when I used to talk to her much she wouldn't show much interest but when I stop she starts showing...) Anyway, while I'm chillin at work... She calls me on the phone and is like "Come here! Come over here!" I look through the window and I see her and she's smiling. I kept trying to stall her and be like "What's it for? Is it important? I'm kinda busy..." but eventually I went over. She asked me to buy her a candy bar. So I'm like "Okay, where's the money?" and she tells me "I forgot my money at home and was wondering if you can get me one?" and I am like "What do *I* Get??" and she's like "What do you want?!" with a devlish smile on her face. I told her I'm broke and she's like "Yeah right!" I bust out my Gucci wallet and she's like "You have a Gucci wallet!???" and I smirk and tell her "It's fake.." but she knows I'm kidding. So eventually I went to the Vending machine and I told her "The machine is broken... It won't take my dollar." and she makes some comment like "The machine just doesn't like your dollar...well that sucks"

Then I talked to her for about 30 minutes. She starts asking me how much I make I keep it ****y by saying "You shouldn't be asking people how much they make.." and then she tells me that another person told her how much he made (the top guy at my job) so then I ended up telling her, "I make 5 grand a month, how much does he make?" and then she says yeah thats how much he makes too. She ends up telling me how she wants to buy a Lexus and I tell her "Amazing, I drive a Lexus" and she's like "No you don't!" and I really do. But I kept the mystery of "Or Do I....?!" But it seems like we have a lot in common.

Later in the night, I asked her out for tomorrow night and she said she wants to go. However, this is a group night out but I asked her to be my guest. The other employees on my team are going and I am bringing her as my guest and she agreed. When I asked her out before to hang out with just me and her she would always change her plans. But I have a feeling that I could somehow still hook, line and sinker her into hooking up with me. I just need to make an impression and SHOW her that I'm a successful, confident MAN that she would want in her life. Should I still buy her that candy bar? I mean it's just 50 cents. I mean what's the worst case scenario? I was thinking of getting it tomorrow and just putting it on her desk or something. She would probably think it would be sweet rather than AFCish.

BTW Before any comments on it's bad to hook up with a chick where I work. The only reason why I am pursuing it is because after the year is over - I am quitting this job and transferring to a better one.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First off bro. Group dates aren't good. How can you get to know a chick one on one if she's chatting it up with the co-workers and not you? You have little room to isolate, you may have other c*ckblocker co-workers ready to sabotage you, she may not even see it as a date at all. By inviting her to your company get together, you maybe holding onto a false hope that you may have a chance. Personally, I would have gone on an exclusive date with her. If she changed plans again, then the truth is staring me in the face. And if she said yes to the solo date, then its game on!

Second, you already know she's an attention wh0re. And from the way she's talking about nice wallets and fancy cars (I drive an RX350 myself), she sounds very high maintenance as well. IMO, I think she's only good for a ONS.

I'd continue with the negative hits on her. One day, walk her to her beat up Honda Civic and do a neg hit about how she drives the same car every 16 year old kid has. Another time, neg hit her style of dress and that your wallet probably is worth more than her clothes. Do it in a C/F manner. Don't be insulting. Keep it in a joking playful manner. The point is to knock her off her high horse. Show her you've got the $ and the game to back it up.

Have her buy her own candy bar. In fact, switch it around...next time you see her, tell her that you're hungry and you want her to buy you a candy bar.

Girls high on their horse are funny. They are constantly wanting validation from AFCs. But when faced with a truely confident/****y man, they will do nearly anything to win his attention.

Tell her you want that candy bar King Sized too.
 

Someone Much cooler

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if she mentioned the other guy to compare me with, i would laugh and retort, I have a lex, the same salery and a big ****. Ask her which she would perfer...smirk and smile while you do this.
 

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So far you've played it excellently.

Just don't buy her that candy bar lol.

The smallest acts of kindness and giving in can fvck it up with an AW.
 
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