How should I cope with the stress?

[basbhat]

I am 18 years old and have a seventeen year-old girlfriend of 3 months. This is really both of our's first real relationship. Last summer I lost my virginity to my first girlfriend of just a month and broke up shortly after. I also had one experience this winter with a girl at a party, where I performed oral sex for about 10 seconds and she got up and left. This is the cusp of my sexual experience.
My girlfriend told me how she has never had any real relationships and with the image she casts off at school, I assumed she had not had any sexual experience. So, I decided it was only fair to share the fact that I was slutty at a party in January and a month later I told her how I made the mistake of losing my virginity the previous summer. She accepted both without too much aversion, just asking a couple questions. I felt good about letting her know my past and thought that was that, until one night about two months in to the relationship when I asked her how far she had been after considering that my previously made assumptions could, you never know, be wrong. I just knew she was innocent, but I had to know for sure.
Well , it turns out she has been given oral sex once last summer on the fourth of July when, according to her, her friend's drunk cousin got in the bed with her after she had already been trying to fall asleep there, and forced himself on her, meanwhile she says she did fondle his penis throughout the ordeal , but did not get him off.
I was incredibly shocked and then repulsed by the news. I now had to deal with the thought of my innocent girlfriend who is like an angel to me, being pleased orally by another guy she does not even know. She told me she did not enjoy it and regretted it the next day right after I told her this news would take some time for me to absorb. We have not even done anything sexually past grinding. Now I cannot have a single sexual thought about my girlfriend without visualizing her experience. I know that this should be something that I should get over, but it really strikes my jealousy which only fuels my repulsion at the slutttiness of the act and its belated telling.
My girlfriend's out of town now for three weeks and I need something to ease and open my thought, if anyone can offer any advice, opinions, or insight

 

[syemour]

dude like i dont know, cuase im like new and stuff. but why did that girl just get up and leave while you were chewing carpet?

 

[Howie Farkes]

Why not make it your mission to make sex a beautiful and wonderful thing for her by doing the business in a loving kinda way instead of the somewhat sordid experience she's already had.

 

[Kodiac]

I can't blame you for getting upset jealous..this happens when you have feelings for someone and then find out that she has been with someone else - it's only natural.

Can you say Hippocrite ?

However, It's not her fault you made the assumption she was innocent and therefore shocked to find out that she had a "sexual encounter" under her belt - (no pun intended!!!)

Give it time, you will see it is not such a big thing - or at least, it shouldn't be.

 

[htemorp]

Originally posted by basbhat
I am 18 years old and have a seventeen year-old girlfriend of 3 months. This is really both of our's first real relationship. Last summer I lost my virginity to my first girlfriend of just a month and broke up shortly after. I also had one experience this winter with a girl at a party, where I performed oral sex for about 10 seconds and she got up and left. This is the cusp of my sexual experience.
My girlfriend told me how she has never had any real relationships and with the image she casts off at school, I assumed she had not had any sexual experience. So, I decided it was only fair to share the fact that I was slutty at a party in January and a month later I told her how I made the mistake of losing my virginity the previous summer. She accepted both without too much aversion, just asking a couple questions. I felt good about letting her know my past and thought that was that, until one night about two months in to the relationship when I asked her how far she had been after considering that my previously made assumptions could, you never know, be wrong. I just knew she was innocent, but I had to know for sure.
Well , it turns out she has been given oral sex once last summer on the fourth of July when, according to her, her friend's drunk cousin got in the bed with her after she had already been trying to fall asleep there, and forced himself on her, meanwhile she says she did fondle his penis throughout the ordeal , but did not get him off.
I was incredibly shocked and then repulsed by the news. I now had to deal with the thought of my innocent girlfriend who is like an angel to me, being pleased orally by another guy she does not even know. She told me she did not enjoy it and regretted it the next day right after I told her this news would take some time for me to absorb. We have not even done anything sexually past grinding. Now I cannot have a single sexual thought about my girlfriend without visualizing her experience. I know that this should be something that I should get over, but it really strikes my jealousy which only fuels my repulsion at the slutttiness of the act and its belated telling.
My girlfriend's out of town now for three weeks and I need something to ease and open my thought, if anyone can offer any advice, opinions, or insight

Some AFC shiet this is. First of all, there's no need to disclose any information if the question was never brought up. Second, there has been a very recent post somewhere in regards to your partner's actual sexual experiences. If you're not a f*cking saint, why do you expect your girl to be an angel? If you're a slut, you shouldn't complaint that your girl is one, too...same analogy. I suggest you get rid of all this shiet in your head ASAP, stupid AFC shiet like this won't last in any relationship.