How should college game/life look like ?

[cataxdz]

I'm a 19YO guy in the 1st year of college.I don't have outstanding looks,I don't have 6packs or anything special. I find myself of being an intelligent but at the same time lazy person.

I can't approach girls directly, never could. I can't even approach girls who hit on me ( altough that's pretty rare ) . I have like no social value at all. I was the afc of the class in my first 3 years of highschool, the weird guy. In the last year my parents transfered me to another highschool,in another city, and by the end of the year I became their leader/alpha (mainly because I started to read/watch pua/dj material), everyone wanted to check my opinion, if they meet everyone wanted to see if I come, couple girls even had a crush on me, but I was suffering from oneitis at that time and it ****blocked me.

Soon after that , college started, and noone kept in touch with anyone anymore. Now, my social circle is like...oh well, zero.

I go to gym, 2 girls tried to hit on me there, and with all my PUA/DJ books read, I had no freakin idea of what to do. In my college class,one girl even freakin ASKED me if I'd want to date her, I politely refused cause I didn't like her at all. I am pretty sure I wasn't scared there, still think I did the right thing, couldn't see myself banging that girl.

I don't like to hang out with guys in my class, because I don't have anything to learn from them. Mostly they're dudes who's hobby is to study , and I said fvck that. There is one guy though, I never met anyone like him in real person before. He can directly approach girls on streets (!) , or everywhere really. The dude has guts, and he's worthy to be my friend,we hang out from time to time, I don't know why he wanted to be friends with me though, I have stuff to learn from him, but nothing to offer in return.

I told you about my life, now you tell me about how it should look instead, and the step by step process in order to do so , if possible. I'm tired to be noone.

 

[Digidako]

First of all, saying things like, "I don't know why he wanted to be friends with me though" will not get you anywhere. What I deduced from your post is that you have an extreme lack of confidence. You come here to look for other people who don't know you, to try and help you change your life; when in reality the only person that can help you is you. With regards to the girl who approached you at the gym, unless she looked like The Loch Ness monster I probably would have given her a chance. When I was in high school I was really good friends with a dime, and I mean a hard 10. She was everything that I could ever want in a girl, but there was sort of a mutual respect for each other, in the sense that neither would make an advance. At first I was sort of discouraged, until she had a party and I met all of her friends. Her friends' were all 8+ and all dtf, which I wasn't complaining about. Moral of the story- Don't burn bridges before they're built. Whenever I feel oneitis propagating I usually try to convince myself that she's like the rest of them and inevitably is only here for the D. The former mentality has of course prevented me from starting a relationship, but has also helped me get laid. You say that you have nothing to provide in a potential friendship with said guy, but how do you know that ? If you're basing it purely off anecdotal evidence, I think you're completely misled. You seem to have a lot of predetermined notions, which obviously interfere with your personal and social growth. My advice is to you is nut up or shut up. Before I approach a girl, I take a good look at her (<5 seconds so she doesn't think i'm Jeffrey Dahmer), ask myself what the worst possible outcome could be, and before I have time to answer it I'm already up there trying to work it in. Shallow girl's will base most of their relationships off looks, but lucky for you you're in college and the playing field is vast. As a post-secondary student myself, I go to class everyday and witness some amazing variety, all of which I use to my advantage. It's like fishing man, you might not catch a fish every time you cast, but if internal factors match external cues, you put yourself in a great position to catch a big fish. Now take what I saw with a grain of salt, I've never really had any inhibitions and usually let my mouth run before my brain can. Also i'm 5'7 so if that makes you feel better about yourself. Basically just don't be a pu$$y and remember that women are human too, 9 times out of 10 if you make them feel good about themselves without feeding her [ego] and display confidence at the same time, you'll be golden. Sorry about the rant, I hope I could help. Cheers.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

The college being a ***** paradise is a huge myth. It's just like high school but no parents to boss you around.