"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How Should Children Address Adults?

Desdinova

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This is something that's been floating around in my mind lately. How do you think children should address people such as their parents' friends?

My woman has a friend who's kid addresses me as "uncle" and I fvcking hate it. I'm not her goddam uncle, nor do I want to be. Addressing non-relatives as uncle or auntie just seems wrong to me.

I'm almost leaning toward the old-fashioned way of addressing people by their title and surname, like Mr. or Mrs. Johnson. Or if the last name is too long or hard to pronounce, Mr. or Mrs. J. At least that's what we always did with school teachers. I've heard some of my older relatives still address people by their title or surname, and it makes them sound like intelligen and respectful adults.

What do you think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've addresses people as uncle or aunt when I was young. Uncle is fine. Like Uncle Desdinova... I bet that makes you feel like you getting old.. Suddenly the real world enters your world. I'd be pissed off too.
 

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I'm old school. Unless it's family, Mr. and Ms. is a safe and respectable way to go.
 

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yeah, i think it would be fine if people called me uncle, altho no one ever has

in general, I'd go with the Mr. Surname method
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Desdinova said:
My woman has a friend who's kid addresses me as "uncle" and I fvcking hate it. I'm not her goddam uncle, nor do I want to be. Addressing non-relatives as uncle or auntie just seems wrong to me.
I grew up in Hawaii where there is a strong asian influence. Everyone is an uncle and Aunty here. I love when a kid comes up to me who I have never met and say's "hey uncle, can you help me tie my shoe?" or whatever they say. It really creates the feeling of family and connectedness. This is what Aloha is all about. Aloha has three meanings, hello, good bye, I love you. This is how we address each other here, which is why Hawaii is such a cool place. This is why people from all of the weird disconnected city's in America want to come here. To feel what it is like to be in a place where even strangers treat you like family.

I'm sorry if you have never lived in a place where this is the case, and would rather be addressed as sir. Come on guys, relax a little and have some heart. That's what I think.
 
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