"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How Should Children Address Adults?

Desdinova

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This is something that's been floating around in my mind lately. How do you think children should address people such as their parents' friends?

My woman has a friend who's kid addresses me as "uncle" and I fvcking hate it. I'm not her goddam uncle, nor do I want to be. Addressing non-relatives as uncle or auntie just seems wrong to me.

I'm almost leaning toward the old-fashioned way of addressing people by their title and surname, like Mr. or Mrs. Johnson. Or if the last name is too long or hard to pronounce, Mr. or Mrs. J. At least that's what we always did with school teachers. I've heard some of my older relatives still address people by their title or surname, and it makes them sound like intelligen and respectful adults.

What do you think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've addresses people as uncle or aunt when I was young. Uncle is fine. Like Uncle Desdinova... I bet that makes you feel like you getting old.. Suddenly the real world enters your world. I'd be pissed off too.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I'm old school. Unless it's family, Mr. and Ms. is a safe and respectable way to go.
 

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yeah, i think it would be fine if people called me uncle, altho no one ever has

in general, I'd go with the Mr. Surname method
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desdinova said:
My woman has a friend who's kid addresses me as "uncle" and I fvcking hate it. I'm not her goddam uncle, nor do I want to be. Addressing non-relatives as uncle or auntie just seems wrong to me.
I grew up in Hawaii where there is a strong asian influence. Everyone is an uncle and Aunty here. I love when a kid comes up to me who I have never met and say's "hey uncle, can you help me tie my shoe?" or whatever they say. It really creates the feeling of family and connectedness. This is what Aloha is all about. Aloha has three meanings, hello, good bye, I love you. This is how we address each other here, which is why Hawaii is such a cool place. This is why people from all of the weird disconnected city's in America want to come here. To feel what it is like to be in a place where even strangers treat you like family.

I'm sorry if you have never lived in a place where this is the case, and would rather be addressed as sir. Come on guys, relax a little and have some heart. That's what I think.
 
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