"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How should a DJ handle this

brian123

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When a DJ decides to try to make the girl chase him, how does he get her to chase him when they aren't talking daily?

I recently met a girl, she gave me her number, but we have been not being able to get together (she being busy/me being busy)

Is it DJ to just ask her out for drinks? And what do you say if she says she is busy that night?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sandow

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Always lead your date. Of course it's ok to ask for drinks. If she's busy then pick another date. Girls will always have their shield up. So that first date is always a litlle bit difficult to arrange. My advice: never rely on girls chasing you, or never try and make girls chase you. It doesn't work that way, it just happens without you trying. My point, you should always pursue the opportunities out there. If you play ur cards right and have a lot of experience then girls will chase you, but only if you don't TRY.
 

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Call her up at around 3-4pm or an hour before she leaves work, asks her when she's having dinner. Lets say she says 7 o'clock.

You say - Great I'll pick you up at 830-9 and we'll get some drinks at this cool place. If she says shes busy, give her another chance, but put her on back burner for a couple weeks. Then call again, but only make plans for the later evening to make your intentions clearer.
 
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