how picky and how much time and effort did it take you to be able to say "I'm spinning plates" ?

[bigneil]

"I've got seven women on my mind.
Four who want to own me.
Two who want to stone me.
One says she's a friend of mine.
Take it easy, take it easy.
Don't let the sound of your own wheels drive you crazy".

- Jackson Browne/Glen Frey 1971

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I guess someone needs to better define what spinning plates really mean.

To my understanding, a plate is not spinning until you are having sex regularly with her and you have a decent amount of genuine interest in.

Which is why I end up asking how long did it take you to comfortably say "I'm spinning plates".

I think the reality is many just 'spin plates light' - that is, meet/ date a few women, and look for one of those to gravitate further toward you. It stops that neediness and air of desperation.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Spinning plates does NOT mean having sex with them all IMO. Having sex with 3-4 people regularly would be gross. Even hookers have a limit. Spinning plates means maintaining a romance though. She must NOT have ruled you out as a romantic partner. It does mean having had sex with SOME of them.

The term plate spinning is like the magic act - it means if you don't periodically apply energy to it, it will fall and break up.

Yes, 'spinning plates light' is keeping the tension and possibility alive with the women that have been drawn into your field. And then there is a natural screening process where one of them makes it to the center. I don't get how you could [or would want to] be sleeping with more than one woman at once. This would itself be 'de-centering'.

 

[bigneil]

Yes, 'spinning plates light' is keeping the tension and possibility alive with the women that have been drawn into your field. And then there is a natural screening process where one of them makes it to the center. I don't get how you could [or would want to] be sleeping with more than one woman at once. This would itself be 'de-centering'.

On two occasions I sincerely attempted to sleep with 2 girls during the same day.

1) In 1993 I cheated on my first girlfriend with my first love (I had loved her for 6 years). When I got home my girlfriend was waiting in my driveway. She knew. She begged me to spend the night - never in my life did any woman try so hard to spend the night. I let her. I had sex with her but stopped and told her it hurt. That ultimately ruined our relationship, within a few weeks she left me. I deserved it.

2) In 2007 I went to Amsterdam Red Light District. I immediately found a HB10 (the only HB10 I was ever with). She was so gorgeous, as she walked away I thought "OMG was I just with THAT girl??" I tried to go to another girl. None of the other girls came close. They were HB6.

Somehow, in a local environment, the Universe brings us to our ideal match first, always.

 

[ubercat]

I m not sure I ve ever seen anyone say your plates have to b quality women. I dunno how but after a while u always naturally seem to reach a level. I just about always seem to have 1-3 7s around. 3 is my limit. From zero it takes me on average a couple of months to fill my roster with girls I can tolerate. At my age I can take or leave female company which of course means I always get it.

 

[TheGambino]

Took me 4 years to really be able to spin pates on a regular.

I got 2 high interest plates in my rotation now. We hang out, fvck, go out, go to the movies and they come to my house. Im managing it.

Next to that I got a couple on the backburner and 2 dates scheduled with old HB8's to go to a latin lounge and out with the other.

It took me 4 years of experience in the field, falling down, getting up, falling down getting up and a lot of reading on here.

P1mpin aint easy. I feel complete abudance now, I don't give a sh1t what a girl throws at me, I can dropp 'em easy.

 

[Who Dares Win]

It gets very low effort and successful to spin amazing plates in the right enviroment while the same person (me) and the same behaviour leaves me in a long dry spell in the wrong one.

Instead of putting more work I decided that its much simple to switch environment and country, also the funny thing is that its harder where the girls are ugly and easy where the girls are hot.

Talking about south eu vs east eu of course.

I like to have sex but not as much as making it a second work in terms of commitment and stress and surely not with girls I dont find that attractive.