How often?

[martinM.]

I've been seeing this girl for about six weeks now. I work a lot and i'm a full time student so i dont have a lot of free time. I usually see her maybe once a week sometimes once every two weeks. Should i be seeing her more or am i good? What i mean is will her interest level drop because of this?

 

[Cashew]

I think you're good. I've been dating a girl for nearly six months now and I only see her on about once a week. Some weeks I'll see her twice and other weeks we skip. She is still crazy about me though. I don't think that seeing her the amount of time you currently do would be responsible for any drop in interest level.

I think that's about a decent amount of time to be spending in with a girl before a real serious relationship develops. People have a habit of spending too much time together too quickly and that can be more harmful than helpful in the long run I think. People who see a girl three or four times a week early on in a relationship... what's with that!? Have a life of your own!

 

[Kestrel]

Situations like these all depends on the individuals. Some people don't need to see each other everyday to feel connected and grow in interests. Some people who need more attention in their lives do. Also another factor that can shape interest level is do you have other competition? Just from my personal experience, the girl whom I see only once a week, I tend not to be as emotionally attached to. The girl whom I would like to spend alot of time with and do is the one I fall in love with.

 

[martinM.]

Yeah, once or twice week would be ideal. Things sort of feel like there are headed in the "serious" direction. As far as competition goes, im not sure, not that i know of. She brought up that we should be "exclusive" and i agreed, but i know that doesn't mean there's not competition.

I see your point Kestrel.