"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How often you personally reach out to new plates?

spiegel549

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Men hope you all are having a good night. Wanted to throw this out there and get some feedback.

I have been meeting a lot more potential plates more frequently recently and been tweaking how often I reach out to them. Trying to measure what is considered to much / to not enough ratio.

You meet a new plate. Fool around a bit, have a good time then a "date" is set up to get together.

Managing multiple plates get tricky so what do you personally consider reaching out to much vs just enough to keep them chasing/interested?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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macallik

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Not quite sure I understand the question. If you get a new number and you are interested in hanging out with the girl, then it is in your best interest to follow up. If you do not feel as compelled to hang out after getting the number, then they probably aren't as high quality as the other plates you are juggling. I'd set my dates up during the week if I had a low/average level of attraction.
 

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Why do people continue to think a plate is any woman you are talking to? It's a term for a girl you are banging on the regular.
 

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I'm saying you meet a new girl, you hook up, now you want to make her a plate. How frequently do you reach out to initiate contact to keep her interested in wanting to see you/fuk you.
 

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in general no more than once a week
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The dj bible taught me that having fun has a higher priority than
women . If there is an opportunity to get a new chick then I will use it as long as she provides me fun. If not I'm moving forward and following the same principle.
That's the answer.
 

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I don't.

It'd benefit you to start training your girls to initiate 99.5% of the time.

If I do initiate it will be:

"Hey, lmk what days you're free to meet"

Since you're only seeing her once a week, if you're constantly initiating then that'll also be once a week.
 

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To me, women are a big priority in life. I know I don't want to live on a planet that's inhabited without women.

It's one thing to be overly obsessed, but it's just as ridiculous in my opinion to act like they're no big deal and that other things are more important.

In my life, there are very few things more significant than commanding the attention of an attractive woman.
I find it amazing that a person like yourself , a ss veteran to have such a belief.
I agree and disagree with your statement.

I agree in the part that a planet without women is a pain in the a*s.
But the rest you said is just afc thinking.
 

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Reach out to her as much as YOU want. There are no rules in the "game," other than the rules YOU deem fit. Once you adopt others' rule, you are just a product of the "game," not the "game."
 
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