"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How often to contact a fvck buddy?

Mr.Fantastic

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I met this girl a few weeks ago in a bar - we have been out quite a few times since, each time she comes back to mine for some cave man action. Thing is, she is only studying here (in the uk) for a few months, and she lives in america. So this will obviously not be a serious relationship as she will go home at the end of the month and i may never see her again.

My question is, apart from when i call her up to get together, how often should I text or ring her?...like, just to keep in contact n be friends n stuff.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Maximus Rex

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How often do want that to f*ck?
 
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Dole

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good question, I am curious as well. Anyone have some tips on how to treat fvck buddies and how often to contact them?
 

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I dont think you want to contact her too often or else you may create some feelings in her and yourself. Contacting her once every other day is enough imo.
 

IsiMan84

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If they already know what's up between you, then I figure it's probably not all that necessary to talk to them any time other than when you want the sexin'. I mean do you REALLY want to know how her day went?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Demystify

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I'd like to know how you meet/make a **** buddy let alone how often you contact one.
 

IsiMan84

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I thought you pretty much get one the same way you'd get any girl, but then you keep the interest level high enough for sex, but low enough to stay out of a relationship. Chances are she'll eventually get feelings for you anyway.
 

Sandow

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ahh yes great question. I happen to be quite experienced in this dept. If she lived in the UK with you I would tell you to contact her very seldomly. Like only when you want some a$$, lol. If you contact her too much, she's gonna think you want a relationship, and depending on what she wants, she's either gonna start liking you or she'll run away. Again, it depends on what she wants.

However, if you contact her less, like once during the week and once on the weekend, she'll be around and should chase you. Actually, it's probably better to only contact her on the weekends if all you want is a booty call. She'll get the picture.

But in your situation, your booty call is only visiting. And she's only gonna be here for a few more months. In this case it's ok to contact her more because you both know she's leaving soon. Your gonna wanna make the most out of it. It's basically a time constraint, therefore you wont scare her off no matter how much you contact her. Ok maybe if you call her everyday then maybe she'll get weirded out, so don't that. But you get the picture. You can bascially contact her a few times a week, and on the weekends. Of course this goes with assuming she's attracted to u and it sounds like she is.

Ok, my last point. Booty calls are great, but just be aware at one point she's gonna fight or flight. Meaning she's going to want a relationship, or she'll move on if it never progresses. It all depends on the chick and what she wants. I've had booty calls for years, and I've had booty calls for just a few weeks. Thats something you can't really control. Just rememember if you want a booty call, it's important to set the frame from the very beginning! meaning make it clear,through your actions (dont talk about it). that you want this to be pure physical. When you guys meet up always hook up and don't open up too much or give her an opportunity to open up. If you do she's gonna find a connection and want a relationship. Just be that bad boy who's great in the sack :) By not pening up, your making yourself mysterious and making her wonder about you. Thats good by the way :)

Ok I'm done, good luck.
 

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every 96 hours.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gangster Of Love

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Bible_Belt said:
I don't contact FBs. They contact me.
Exactly! :up:

And if you are playing your cards right with a FB, after a few weeks, she will contact you more often than you have time for, or want to see her.
 
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