how often to call/text a new gf?

[LoneWolf]

i'm having troubles with this one as i see almost everyone say call or text everyday, twice at least. im not sure how to go about this with a new gf (we have only seen each other 5 or 6 times and have had sex. met her parents n all that shiz. is she waiting for me to text or call? should i be calling at least once a day to see how her day went and tell her goodnight or is it still too early for that stuff?

just don't want her to get the wrong idea by me not calling and texting her for a few days. there have been a couple of times where she text me during the week to double check if we were still on for a date on the weekend. ive called her maybe twice and shes called me once.

 

[DillonAnderson]

When I'm in a relationship, we end up texting basically from morning to night, and then call at night. It could be different, because I'm in highschool still, but if youre around my age, thats considered the norm.

 

[bigneil]

You can normalize her behavior by simply waiting for her to text, and mostly just replying. That way you give her the space she needs. Give her too much space.

Occasionally disappear for a day or two, unless she's really freaking out. Otherwise you'll become ordinary and its hard to regain high interest level once it slips.

End the text conversation on a high note - leave her wanting more. She'll subliminally keep thinking "did he text back" and that helps you to infect her mind with thoughts of you.

As a rule, only text/email things that are funny or seductive - never whine about things like "why didn't I hear back?" or "double text" if you can avoid it.

Also, use the phone to ask for dates so you can hear her voice.

 

[getready]

When I'm in a relationship, we end up texting basically from morning to night, and then call at night. It could be different, because I'm in highschool still, but if youre around my age, thats considered the norm.

Definitely DO NOT do this. I am also still in highschool and have had a girlfriend for over a year. I see her every day so I barely text. Maybe every other day I'll text her or it might be less than that. She has even said that's she's glad that I didn't text her very much in the begining of the relationship because that definately would have driven her away. You can't go wrong with texting her less. Keep things light and fun early on. Generally speaking the worst case scenario is she says I wish you would text me more.

 

[LoneWolf]

yeah, i've kind of studied her pattern. she IS a busy girl with work and study and sports (she plays basketball) but so far it seems she texts or calls in the middle of the week to check up on me and see if we are still on for the weekend. that's what happens when i dont contact her. i don't really like texting or calling a girl everyday myself, but id probably feel the need to say hi every couple of days. i'm like that with everyone pretty much.

 

[DillonAnderson]

Well maybe thats just me. I havent pursued a relationship for longer than 6 months ever, so these other guys are gonna have a lot better input then me when it comes to that.

 

[LoneWolf]

so should i be waiting for her to contact me first? the last time i didn't contact her was like 4 days after our 1st date. she text me asking how i was and if we were still on for the weekend. kinda the same thing with our 4th date. i didnt contact her for 3 days and she text me again a day before the 5th date asking me to come out with her. i called her that night responding to that text and we spoke for 15mins.

so its the present now and its been 2 days since our last texting (of how we had a good time) - is this a pattern? i dont contact her and let her contact me again? seems like thats whats happening with us atm. plus i hate when i call sometimes she texts back saying she'll call me later cause shes at the gym or basketball or something. and she calls back after. might have to just text her from now on asking if its a good time to talk lol. i just hate calling ppl all the time and they are busy. dont like to annoy people.

 

[comic_relief]

Just have a busy life and you won't have to worry about this stuff.

During the week, I am BUSY! During the weekend, I am chill. I workout all the time, go to club meetings, go to class, hang out with friends, and bike all the time. I don't have the time to do such things as text her everyday. She generally texts me or sees when I am free.

Right now since my relationship is brand-new we always want to be near each other (I still go out with friends) but is the night time after a long workout or for dinner rather quickly:rockon: .

I will reiterate. If you have a busy life, than you won't have to worry about any of this. If you have a boring life and are not busy, you must fake being busy and girls can see through that when they ask "what you been up to?"

- comic_relief