How often should you...?

[Ko-B]

Ahhh, it's been AGES since I visited this forum...

There's been a lot of changes since I last visited here (a year ago, I think) and when I was last really active here (way back in 2001 or somethin...)

Anyway, during all my time here I haven't recalled anybody ever asking the question ::

"How often should you take out the girl?"

I mean, location is a real big factor here...but let's give the situation that you leave reasonably close to each other, but you don't see each other very often around campus...

What do you guys think?

Ever since I've entered college, I've been in a situation where one of the girls I'm interested is about 5-10 minutes walking distance away from me. Yeah, I don't see her around much in campus, but I've gotten to know her and we've been out (just the two of us) exactly twice...Just let me know your opinion on this.

Pzio.

 

[Knicknack]

if the girl is showing a high IL i take her out friday, saturday, and possibly sunday... then one day in the middle of the week... don't get me wrong, this is after knowing the girl about 2 weeks or so and you know you are comfortable with eachother.

 

[stevey_2000]

i disagree with knicknack,

think quality and not quantity!!,

usually i find, the best way is to spend less time with her but make sure the things you do are fun and you make her feel as if you are giving her the time of your life. If you pull it off correctly she will constantly keep contacting you to go out on dates again but make her think that you lead a very busy and social life.

twice a week for the first few months is the rule i think.

 

[Chemistry]

Being at college myself...

I know guys who see their girl everyday and go out with them most nights and it has carried on perfectly in that vein for months

He's got his girl hooked basically, so this works perfectly... his weapon in all this is sex

On the other hand, if you don't have the ability to be able to keep a level of excitement in it, or maintain that sexual charge then it's much safer to see each other less...

I think a lot boils down to experience, social ability, and havin the right attitude... the end goal is to have the girl in question unable to wait to see you each time, and everytime that she does see you she (well both of you really) has the best time ever... so, if you can see girl 5 times a week and do this each time, then continue to see her 5 times a week, however if you can only manage to do this twice a week then make it twice a week...

Don't just hook up for the sake of hookin' up with some "Oh she's a nice girl" or somethin else of that variety... go out with a game plan, and if you can give her a great time each occasion then she'll be in your hands, for you to pick and choose when and where you see her...

 

[diplomatic_lies]

I go out with my gf once a fortnight.

Its a while, but I'm usually far too busy to do so otherwise. Besides, 2 weeks is great for both of us; we get to do our own stuff, and when we see each other, it becomes more fun (mainly cuz we got things to do).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by stevey_2000
i disagree with knicknack,

think quality and not quantity!!,

...

I agree. If you have to be concerned about cost or time spent, your efforts are being used in the wrong place. Focus on having a good time at whatever you're doing, even if you're just walking to class together.

As for going out, if the attraction is mutual, just take turns planning outtings.