How often should you see your girlfriend?

[Chuck Taylor]

Once a week during the first 3 months

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Hi guys,

Been a while since I have posted on this but its been a while since i've been in a proper LTR and I need a second opinion. I have been seeing a girl, who to be honest is not far from a 10 in both personality and looks, for 5 months now and she seems to be more independent than me which is a little annoying and I wonder what everyone else thinks is a "good" relationship in terms of contact as well as how often to see each other.

I'm 28 years old, she is 24. Both in London in good jobs, both very good looking, and generally getting on great but recently been fighting a bit and I think the frustration on my side is because I think she is a little bit too independent. We usually don't see each other at the start of the week much until a Wednesday or Thursday and then a few times at the weekend. I'd say on average 3 times a weeks. If I dont speak to her in person I will see her usually be in contact whether it is through email at work or she will ring me for a little chat at night, the odd day we might not speak that much and she might just send me a night night message.

Overall, I feel a little bit frustrated that she is so chilled and is quite a hands-off relaxed girlfriend. How often should you be seeing each other/staying in contact and what do you expect?

I'm going through several different emotions as I dont know

- 1. Whether I am not happy with the relationship and want something more, or

2. I am turning into a little AFC ***** and need to man up and I am seeing her enough.

I said we were fighting a little bit but in general I would say that the relationship so far is very strong and there are some very powerful and deep feelings there on both our sides. She is definitely not being independent because she is detached and cheating etc.

What do you expect from a relationship?

Explanation: You've become needy and clingy.
Solution: Don't.
Root cause: You either don't have your life together or your life is not exciting enough.



Modern Man Advice

 

[svencandy]

How often are you banging her? It should be nearly every time you see her if things are right.

Not sure if OP has answered this yet, only read his first few replies, but he either avoided the question or missed it.

She wants to marry you.

Cool.

How often are you banging, and how are the sessions.

 

[SW15]

When considering this question, it is a matter of how long you and your girlfriend have been together.

3-4 days a week is good from about Month 3-Month 12. After the 1 year anniversary, that could be bumped to 4-5 days a week. You don't want to see her every day because then the living together and marriage questions start popping up.