"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How often should you pay?

Jaxon

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How often should you pay for dates, ice cream, coffee, and other random sh*t?

I usually play it to where I'm not too anxious to pay, but always willing. If she offers or really wants to for whatever reason, that's cool by me.

But what do you do if you have a good time with a chick and she's really fun, but never insists on paying? Do you pay for every frickin' thing every frickin' time, or do you ask her to pony up?

Thoughts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Men will have to pay most of the time. But, if your paying for everything and she never helps you out. That is not good.
 

vagrant

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It depends on your personality and her personality. It also depends how much she likes you and how much you like her.

For example, I consider myself a good guy with pretty much a lot of money even though I don't and paying for a girl is something I'm happy to do especially if I asked her out and cool enough to go out with me.

If a girl likes you she will be concern about you which is the case with my ex. She's a smart girl and personality wise she is a nice girl and hates seeing me pay all the time and she would really offer to pay as in she would take the money away from my hand and put it in my pocket and she'd pay right up. This makes the cashier smile every single time. Which makes me smile every single time too.

Just feel it bro but of course always be the one to offer first and do it coming from your heart. Do it in a cool way like, don't worry I got this. Again try to sense her reactions whether she feels bad that she's making you pay or she's really a heartless creature. Only you can tell.
 

Iamnotacrook

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Maybe it's just because I'm a cheapskate, but I never pay their way... ever. I used to, but that was only when my money was free. The way I see it, the girls need to invest as much time, effort and money as me, or I'm gonna assume they don't want it badly enough... and she'd better have her own job, because I don't date dependents. I just realized that sounds real conceited...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dng

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Dude, never pay anything for her.

My principle is I don't pay anything for her until I have sex with her.

If you invest something on her, i.e. meal, ice cream, or drinks, you should have to chase her b/c you already gave her something valuable, money.

It is not good. For her, she takes or leave you. She has nothing to lose.

However, you will end up losing your precious money if you can't **** her in the end.

I always go dutch by insisting we are just friends yet.
 
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