How often should we talk to each other on the phone?

[Plain & Simple]

i have searched the LTR bible threads and it doesnt really hit this subject.

I Was thinking, ive been with my gf for 8 months and change now, and its like im the one that has to do the calling most of the time, im the one that has to iniciate the communication, if i dont do it ill be lucky if she does, even when she says that she will call me back she never does.

So ive been thinking, how often should we talk to each other? i was planning in just stop calling her and let her do all the calling and texting, hell if she doesnt want to talk to me whatever then.
Shell normally text me rather than calling me.

 

[frivolousz21]

IF u are in love

like you claim you are.

she will want u as one of the most if not the most important things or people in her life.

therefor wanting u talk to to her everyday.....about everyday living and life.

if u are both IN LOVE as you think u are.

she would be ur best friend as a life partner.


but she isnt in love like u think u are.

and u only want her so much becasue ur afraid to lose her.


I feel bad for waht ur involved in.

it will inevitable hurt u

 

[Plain & Simple]

well....dont get me wrong, if i call and she doesnt pick up she always calls back within 5 mins or less, but like when we go out she doesnt call me after the date, you know, like when we see each other she wont call me, she only does when we dont see each other for the day.
We talk to each other in one form or another every single day.
Like she just called ,earlier, and she said that she was gonna call me back when she beats my record in pacman, soi said ok.

Now watch how she doesnt call me until tomorrow.

i dont like calling her cause of the simple reason that she doesnt call me much, thats why i let the calling all to her.

 

[snintel]

To be with a girl for 8 months is serious..... It doesn't seem like you are the "best friends" you usually should be, one word: RE-SEDUCE.

 

[Plain & Simple]

^^u might be right, the question is how do i do that, ive asked that a million times and noone has an answer, but how often is it appropriate for us to be on the phone a day? 2, 3 4 ?

i was aiming towards 2, although my friends girl calls him like 10 times a day lol no lie

 

[frivolousz21]

because its not a good relationship...I wish I could show u mine.for a few days..


its apparent that she isnt into you the same.

so why bother?

why do u want soemthing like this?

after 8 months there shouldnt be any games..on how to make this right.

 

[Plain & Simple]

^^so how many times u call your gf and she calls u a day?

How many times is it appropriate for a bf and gf to be on the phone?

How do i RE-seduce ?


I wouldnt say that its not a good RL, its been like that ever since day 1, i guess thats how she is. I got the feeling that she is scare of falling in love.

 

[themanwithnoname]

No, she's not scared of falling in love, she's probably not that into you, it's the girls job to maintain a relationship and keep attraction, my experiences...

 

[frivolousz21]

1 time.


now we talk for an hour or so..everyday I dont see her.

but thats because we are friends as well as lovers

you dont have that..because she doenst feel the same.


dont do this to urself.


yes I said 1 time.

yesterday......she texted me at 2, texted me at 5..and I text her at 10 pm..we talked from 1 to 3 am. longer than ussual

today no contact until she calls after work to set plans..the call will be no longer than 5 min..and she will come over to spend the night with me.


tomorrow..we wont talk till she gets out of class at 10 pm.

so no contact all day.

why do u have to talk to her 2 or 3 times??

 

[Plain & Simple]

Originally posted by themanwithnoname
No, she's not scared of falling in love, she's probably not that into you, it's the girls job to maintain a relationship and keep attraction, my experiences...

???

Not that into me? She always calls me, every single day, i dont remember when was the last time that i called her first, if she doest call me shell text me, and call me later, again she iniciates it.
I dont know how that makes her "not into me"

frivolous : You stated that we dont have that cause she doesnt feel the same, but yet she calls me more than once a day, and she texts me more than once a day, hmmmmm that would make me believe that may be your "Gf" doesnt feel what you think she feels about you, or as much as you think.

i guess that my situation looks better than i thought it did.

like today shes been calling me thruout the whole day like 4 times and we've hold good conversations all 4 times for an average of 10 mins or so each.

 

[frivolousz21]

yea....

but overtime we will talk less and less..thats inevitable.as long as it takes a natural course.