"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How often do you work out and what results are you getting?

seethehoop

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How many times a week should you work out?

I currently go Sunday to Thursday. That's five consecutive days a week but I think this may be too much.

I generally do about 60 mins of intense cardio and then 20 mins of weight training on the machines.

I'm fine with this and I'm getting results (lost 14lbs in 7 weeks, gained muscle and lost 3"or so off the waist).

The only reason I ask is cos I'm wondering if I had a mid week rest would I see even better results and wondered what other peoples routines were and how effective they were?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kep records, weights lifted, dates, measurements of your body, waist, arms, chest etc. weight, also you can tell how well you are doing by your clothes getting looser/tighter in the right places
 

SoSuave666

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Depends what your goals are. You looking to build muscle or lose fat? It sounds like the latter to me, which is why you run so much and lift so little. Personally, My routine is semi-reversed. I spend about 25 minutes in cardio and about 40 minutes weight training. 25 minutes is plenty for me as I play a lot of basketball as well so I get a lot of cardio there as well.

I usually work out Mon and Tuesday, have a rest day on Wed, Then hard Thur-Sat. That gives me the same 5 day cycle per week as you, but I get a rest day in between. This is also the routine I used when I played football, so I'm very comfortable with it.

Be sure to switch up your workouts for increased results. Different exercises will shock the muscle group so you don't plateau. Set up a workout routine well before you are actually in the gym and track your progress.

I think the main thing I can advise you on, if you are looking to lose weight, is to be very wary about what you put into your body. Your nutrition is over half the battle here, bud. Get a nutritionist to consult you or do your own research. But be aware that your diet is the most important factor in weight loss.
 

JohnChops

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Every day. Always go hard at the gym. Keep a record of your reps/weight/sets so you can go up in weight and up in size. Protein after the gym, no ****ty food ...ever. Diet is 70% of your results, lifting is only 30%. You can't out train a bad diet!
 

Cremasta

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What you're doing now is pretty good, the results are speaking for themselves.

Five days a week is fairly full-on, especially if they're consecutive.
One thing you might want to consider is every five or six weeks, take one week off. Go do something different like riding a bike, yoga or swimming, but wind it back a bit for just the one week.

It takes at least two or three weeks for you to start losing strength or aerobic capacity, so if you only take one week off, you'll come back fully refreshed and stronger.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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seethehoop

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My diet is pretty good.

Fruit for breakfast and mid morning snack.

Lunch is salad with protein, chicken or turkey. I have a little dressing but ya have to have some fat in the diet.

My dinner is usually similar but I have more of a mixed salad. I eat mostly a variety of leafy salad, peppers, tomatoes, cucumber, onion. Again with some dressing and potatoes, boiled or roasted with a one calorie spray plus some meat, chicken, fish or ham.

I don't eat much pasta any more, rice or bread.

I've started to get a craving for chocolate after my workout so I sometimes have 3 or 4 pieces on an evening. That and a craving for red meat!

this is my average day.

I'm getting some good results but I think a mid week rest is a good idea plus I will take a week off when my membership is up for renewal next month.
 

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Switch he eating chocolate to a chocolate protein shake and it's looking decent for a cutting diet. Maybe also add some low fat cottage cheese before bed.
 

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Meticulous diet. Now avoiding grains. Push-ups every morning and before I go out. Pull-ups every other day. Biking 10 miles 2-3 days per week. This routine has kept me in the same shape since I was 28 (I'm now 50% older and still feel like I'm in my prime. Still dating the same HB8-HB9 women I did then also).
 
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