"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How often do you guys go out?

EbbsAndFlows

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Anyone else get kind of anxious if they aren't out socializing every Friday and Saturday night? Or say, I have a buddy text me to wingman on a Thurs night, even though I know Friday at work I have a ton to do. On the weekends, even if there's not much going on, I still find myself willing to do whatever there is to do, even if I know it's not going to be a great time and I'm tired.

I have some buddies who are totally cool staying in on a Fri an Sat night, even with high developed social circles. I feel like I should be willing to stay in and play guitar, watch Tv, go to sleep early and what not on weekends. Yet, I find myself going out and getting wasted, blowing tons of cash, no matter the venue.

I think part of it is that I don't have a steady gf, and I feel like I should be out nonstop.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Chamber36

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I have the same thing, sort of.

Gotta go out and find a nice girl.
 

Don-Kong

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I was really tired the other day and pushed myself to go out alone. Once there, immediately I was dancing and found energy.

Priorities I believe are key.
If you want to go out more than a few times a week, you should be clear what you want. Are you doing it to feel more social, alive, to improve game, to beat boredom, to have fun, to relax, etc etc.

Then you can adjust your life accordingly to what suits you best.
 

EbbsAndFlows

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Chamber36 said:
I have the same thing, sort of.

Gotta go out and find a nice girl.
Yeah, I know. It was nice to have a g/f, stay in, not care what other people are doing, get drunk, have sex, save a ton of money.
 

JohnChops

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Having a GF got old really fast for me, didnt really like it. I also dont go out as much as I used to, maybe friday or saturday sometimes. But the whole GF thing hinders the point in going out lol unless shes 1) with you 2) youre drinking with some buds
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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gravityeyelids

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When i'm up at college and it's the weekend...if i dont go out, i feel like everyone else is having a much better time than i am, drinking and hooking up, and i get extremely restless.
 
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