"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How often do you guys cold approach?

Eternal_water

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For those of you who aren't in LTR's, on average how often do you cold approach girls though out the week/month?

And where do you do most of them, bars/clubs or elsewhere?

Also how old were you when you first began to cold approach properly and generally how succesful are you at it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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JoeMarron

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Hah..Ive never approached in my life. All of my success fell in my lap
 

Wakeupplease

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cold approaching is VERY difficult unless you are terribly witty. And you have better luck cold approaching in a library than in a place like a bar (where women have their battle gear ready).
 

NewJack

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I went cold-approach crazy (thank you Real Social Dynamics) when I was 24 to 26.

Got some lays, relationships from it. Don't do it anymore. Loved daygame, only did daygame really.

Its a cool experiment and it can get you sexually involved with women. About 1 in 20 will want things to go forward, consistently. You can learn to listen to the signals that let you know when you've hit this one-in-twenty girl. Then you can date and have sex with her.

Don't regret it. Fantastic learning experience. It taught me what relationships are, and what it means to be in one, and now that is more interesting to me than lays. But it was a great steppingstone.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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n00bPimp

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Im in an Ltr and i still cold approach. I do it in bars fridays and saturdays and i do day approaches on sundays. It has been my ritual for the past year and a half. My sucess varies. I can get a date a week. Sometimes one a month. But i consistently have fun doing it.
 

VladPatton

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Me, never. It's not for me.
 

Vanilla

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At least one approach per day, even with a busy lifestyle it's possible to achieve that. Helps develop confidence and social skills quickly.
 
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