kickureface
Master Don Juan
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im starting to floss, hoping that it will clear up my ok breath.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
kabatura said:I flossed once, well for six months. I wanted to see what it was like when the dentist askedif you had been flossing and you can say YES! Well, for the first time in my life I had black stuff between my teeth. So no flossing for me, maybe I was doing it wrong?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Same problem for me.kabatura said:I flossed once, well for six months. I wanted to see what it was like when the dentist askedif you had been flossing and you can say YES! Well, for the first time in my life I had black stuff between my teeth. So no flossing for me, maybe I was doing it wrong?
Green tea that iskabatura said:Tea is supposed to help as well.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Charm&Style said:lone, where did you get your flosser from?
kickureface said:tongue scrapers really that improtant?
wolf116 said:Same problem for me.
A natropath told me flossing is no good.
Don't listen to idiots who tell you that flossing is bad or ineffective. Most conventional tooth brush WILL miss between the teeth or the grooves in your molders. The purpose of flossing is to make sure that there's nothing between your teeth, make sure your teeth have space and stimulate the gum. To do flossing right you have to make sure you do it as close as possible to the teeth, so there is more circular area cleaning. This is what I got from talking to Asian and Indian dentists, they are one of the most reliable and experienced. Just look at the number of braces and cavity statistics in those countries. Most people don't need braces at all since they practice healthy hygiene habits by brushing twice a day and flossing DAILY! Hope that helped.kickureface said:im starting to floss, hoping that it will clear up my ok breath.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'd love to read the research on this...it must be total trash. No controls or anything.LoneSilver said:Since flossing I know when I have my teeth cleaned it's faster and less headache for the dental hygenist but research is showing the importance of flossing in the prevention of heart disease and also other health issues.
Throttle said:I'd love to read the research on this...it must be total trash. No controls or anything.
Poor people eat like crap, don't brush or floss, and get fat. Which is the number one risk for heart disease. Poor people get the worst health care, especially preventive health care, can't afford statins, and are more likely to die from heart disease. I'd want to see that they controlled for any of that. Judging from the size of the effects claimed, they couldn't possibly have.