How Often Do You Experience Real Attraction?

[~attrACTION~]

Meaning, how often do you see a woman that you are really attracted to (physically)?

This could be an underlying excuse for me, but I'm not sure. When I'm at school or out anywhere, I rarely see a woman that I WANT to go talk to. Lately I have been forcing myself to do "approaches" to get over my nervousness. However, I've found my discomfort is mostly around women that I don't truly find attractive.

When I really find a woman attractive, one that I really want to have sex with, there is no nervousness. I feel turned on, so I am not nervous. But these other women, the typical American blonde-haired sorority chicks do not do much for me. I see way too many of these.

It seems like the women I find most attractive are the ones that work at McDonald's / Burger King or at Motel 6. I seriously find those women, even if they have a few extra pounds, to be more attractive and personable than the girls I meet in classes or elsewhere around town.

A while ago someone posted a quote from Gunwitch that goes, "Women who you are most attracted to are usually most attracted to you as well. This may seem counter intuitive and I won’t get in to evolutionary psychology here, but really the women you find absolutely "MUST HAVE" tend to wind up seeing you as more attractive than other women also."

Here is are examples of the typical women I see:
http://myspace-757.vo.llnwd.net/01526/75/75/1526345757_l.jpg
http://myspace-104.vo.llnwd.net/00440/40/19/440839104_l.jpg
http://myspace-681.vo.llnwd.net/01253/18/69/1253819681_l.jpg
http://a474.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/18/l_979c8b8e5364b12419feda611a511709.jpg
http://myspace-519.vo.llnwd.net/00076/91/55/76935519_l.jpg

Those were really girls pictures from my town that I pulled from their Myspace profiles. I've seen a couple of them at clubs, etc. and other girls that look very similar to them. The only brunettes I see look like this:

http://myspace-239.vo.llnwd.net/01008/93/24/1008104239_l.jpg
http://myspace-413.vo.llnwd.net/00427/31/47/427317413_l.jpg

It makes me want to regurgitate. I would rather see women like these:

http://myspace-979.vo.llnwd.net/00531/97/91/531051979_l.jpg
http://a789.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/9/l_3b908fc95e8133b0e0f78d97264a93c4.jpg
http://a977.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/27/l_c20b7876ae4befef658ba4e0d3d12070.jpg
http://myspace-025.vo.llnwd.net/01491/52/01/1491531025_m.jpg
http://a373.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/38/l_31f5297a9042482776fb2ae67dc14e94.jpg
http://myspace-141.vo.llnwd.net/00810/14/18/810358141_l.png

(Please, if anyone finds offense to my posting of these images, I don't know any of these women, and I am just posting them as examples).

The problem is these women are in low supply and it's not so easy to get to know them unless I make an effort to eat fast food daily and frequent motels on the weekends in my own town. I have thought about driving about an hour to a nearby city to go clubbing on the weekends, but that is my last resort sort of thing.

I go out to clubs and bars, and all I see is women who look typically the same. I really do go out a lot, and during the day I am always somewhere. Rarely do I see a woman that I really feel attracted to and want to go talk to out of gut instinct.

I don't have low libido, quite the opposite in fact. But is it just me? Or is seeing women that you are really attracted to a rare thing? I'm not saying that I will stop trying to date girls for as long as I live in this town, but it just seems more like an obligation because I have little other choice.

I'm just curious to know if I am the only one or not?

 

[Ratisson]

personally i'll take a hot brunnette over a hot blonde any day. Evryone has their own tastes in what they find attractive. And u bring up a point that u get nervous around the ones u dont like. Who cares. U dont like them so why do u care if u are nervous around them. I wouldnt care if i was nervous around Rosie O'donnel

 

[~attrACTION~]

^ Well, I meant more like uncomfortable, and not really smooth. There is, for example, a girl I do find attractive at my work, and I have a feeling she feels the same. It's rare, but then again, I don't want to be '****ting' where I work, as they say.

 

[BacardiGuy]

I see a lot of attractive women around campus, but rarely one that gets me particularly interested based purely on her looks. Except one. This girl from Puerto Rico who looked like a younger, even hotter, Penelope Cruz. I spotted her in a class I had that was a large lecture. Planned on finding her the next class and sitting next to her, only she must've dropped the class cause I never saw her again.

Oh well.

 

[Charm&Style]

bro your jakesh ass needs some koseh irooni lol

The girls you posted prbly 90% of them ide bang, but have no attraction towards.

You gotta hurry up and come down to SoCal

 

[wayword]

My tastes run the opposite of yours, I mean I find this girl EXTREMELY HOT. At least physically...as the group of hot blondes you posted are probably all byches.

However, the dark-haired girls don't make me want to "regurgitate" and I certainly wouldn't kick them out of bed, either.

And I don't know where you live, but most places have a decent supply of brunettes, even moreso than blondes...

 

[da_hunter]

Yeah you are making up excuses.

I had a wing who did very poorly. He wouldn't approach unless it was someone he felt 'especially attracted to' - which usually meant someone brunette with cat eye glasses - so one in every 100 probably he would even bother approaching. The dude never got anywhere - and he is surrounded at the bars with hot ass biatches that I know he would fukk if he had the chance.

 

[~attrACTION~]

Your making up excuses for your lack of sex with these women. If they wanted your ass you wouldn't hesitate to fvck them.

Well, that's part of it, but what one of my points was, women that look like that often don't want me. I also don't feel attraction to them much either, but the other women I posted it seems like there is usually a mutual attraction going on.

I'm just curious, when was the last time you had sex with a women?

Unfortunately, 1 year ago.

 

[realsmoothie]

What? Are we taking this SERIOUSLY?

For ONE thing, two of the "myspace" blonde girls he showed are in porn. One is a playboy playmate. So I don't know what's going on there.

TWO, he just seems to have a racial thing going on. The blondes and brunettes he DOESN'T like are all white. The ones he likes? Almost all "ethnic".

And I'm sorry, but there is NO ONE that looks like that that works at any McDonald's or Burger King around where I live.

I don't understand.

 

[~attrACTION~]

What? Are we taking this SERIOUSLY?

For ONE thing, two of the "myspace" blonde girls he showed are in porn. One is a playboy playmate. So I don't know what's going on there.

Are you serious? I know there are models that live in my town, and I saw a real-life pornstar once at Starbucks, so it's not uncommon, but I wonder which one you are talking about?

TWO, he just seems to have a racial thing going on. The blondes and brunettes he DOESN'T like are all white. The ones he likes? Almost all "ethnic".

Yes, it is a racial thing, because I am not white myself. I think I will stop making excuses though and seriously start trying to pick up the women that work fast food, etc.