How Often Do Women Approach You?

[dannycc]

No poll this time.

Also, I am referring to cold approaches (not social circle).

Quick glossary entry:

Approach: initiating interaction by touching or conversation.

Does not include:

proximity (moving close by without touching or conversation)

approach invitation: staring, staring + smiling


Examples of women approaching:

"Got a light?"

Bumping into you, and sticking around so you can talk to her

 

[In2theGame]

Are we talking directly or in subtle way. This could be a difficult question to answer because Women mostly have a discreet way of "approaching" and many go unnoticed.

 

[Yorkex]

Not in public but happens alot in my friend /acquaintance cycle.

 

[dannycc]

Incorporated into OP

 

[guru1000]

Here are my stats at getting approached, if I am in a lounge area wearing a tight-fitted button-down shirt with a muscular physique, at 6'1":

• 20% bf, 215 lbs.: Not at all
• 15% bf, 202-5 lbs.: Once every 2 or 3 times I go out.
• 10%, 192 lbs.: 2-3 times every time I go out.

Material difference in accordance with body fat level.

 

[dannycc]

Very few replies here. Am I to assume very few guys are getting approached?

 

[BrainDamage92]

I feel awkward when they do this. There was a time when I felt awkward when it was happening at all and my sex life was close to non-existant. Approaching is my job now. And waiting for them to approach is a sure way to attract all the crazies.

 

[KingBeef]

Here are my stats at getting approached, if I am in a lounge area wearing a tight-fitted button-down shirt with a muscular physique, at 6'1":

• 20% bf, 215 lbs.: Not at all
• 15% bf, 202-5 lbs.: Once every 2 or 3 times I go out.
• 10%, 192 lbs.: 2-3 times every time I go out.

Material difference in accordance with body fat level.

^^ THIS...It's so superficial but so damn true. It would happen to me when I was in my physical (looks) peak (27-32) with medium long hair..about 1 a day (subtly) maybe 2. Not that I've aged badly, which I haven't...it's harder to keep that physique and bf % that low consistently after 35 (not an excuse I know) and other distractions. Well, I got 3 months to get my arse in tip top shape...

 

[mangotot]

Its rare for a woman to approach me. It might happen maybe 10 times a year. Usually it's because they want directions and majority of the time, I believe that is what they want.

 

[Bingo-Player]

lol id say i get approached around once a month

even then I gotta be real lucky and in the right place at the right time

 

[old married dude]

Usually never, I tend to wear the male equivalent of a "b1tch face" when I'm out and about.:crackup:

It's not that I don't want to talk to anyone, I'm just busy and don't need any distractions.

I'll lose that face if I'm out having a beer somewhere tho...but the places I like to go drinking (microbrew pubs) are like 98% guys lol.

 

[In2theGame]

Very few replies here. Am I to assume very few guys are getting approached?

What do you consider approached? Are we talking randomly or out in bars/lounges? Direct or indirect?

I get approached a lot indirectly and directly however its much higher when im out in the nightlife.

 

[dannycc]

What do you consider approached? Are we talking randomly or out in bars/lounges? Direct or indirect?

I get approached a lot indirectly and directly however its much higher when im out in the nightlife.

I gave the definition in my first post bro:

Approach: initiating interaction by touching or conversation.

Does not include:

proximity (moving close by without touching or conversation)

approach invitation: staring, staring + smiling

 

[G_Govan]

I get approached a lot indirectly and directly however its much higher when im out in the nightlife.

That's how they do it.

Women will approach you indirectly during the day at places such as work, gym, grocery store, etc. You have to know how to read the non-verbals because they're highly paranoid of looking like they're making any obvious attempt.

I've only ever gotten direct approaches at bars and clubs, not only because alcohol lowers inhibitions but these places have been socially sanctioned as appropriate for this kind of behavior from women.

Don't get me wrong though, they're still very careful about how they do it even while drunk. The most obvious come-ons usually come from women who are of lower SMV than you, no matter where you are.

 

[dannycc]

That's how they do it.

Women will approach you indirectly during the day at places such as work, gym, grocery store, etc. You have to know how to read the non-verbals

Unless a woman has initiated touching or conversation, she has not approached you. Not by my definition anyway.

Approach invitations and proximity approaches are not actual approaches IMO.

 

[RangerMIke]

I will usually get approached when I go to a party, meaning she comes up and starts talking to me with CLEAR buying signals.

I completely agree with the body fat test. About 4 years ago I had put on a lot of weight because I'd been laid up for months after accident. I'm 6'0" and had balloned up to 215 lbs. When I looked like this, and before I took the weight off, I was invisible to women.

 

[mangotot]

I sometimes get chicks bumping into me "accidently", I know that
Its a pickup but sadly they are the unattractive or older ones. If a chick approached me directly (as long as they are not like a 3 or something) I would give them a chance.

That's how they do it.

Women will approach you indirectly during the day at places such as work, gym, grocery store, etc. You have to know how to read the non-verbals because they're highly paranoid of looking like they're making any obvious attempt.

I've only ever gotten direct approaches at bars and clubs, not only because alcohol lowers inhibitions but these places have been socially sanctioned as appropriate for this kind of behavior from women.

Don't get me wrong though, they're still very careful about how they do it even while drunk. The most obvious come-ons usually come from women who are of lower SMV than you, no matter where you are.

 

[Darth]

A high-school senior trapped me on the way out the door today 'accidentally' and got a 2-minute conversation with me. Obviously interested, obviously a pass at me.

 

[G_Govan]

Unless a woman has initiated touching or conversation, she has not approached you. Not by my definition anyway.

Approach invitations and proximity approaches are not actual approaches IMO.

In other words, you're only interested in "overt" approaches, which is the least likely behavior to occur in most women, let alone attractive ones. I don't see the value in waving off their preferred method of getting you to notice them since that would be needlessly eliminating the potential to meet women who are higher SMV than you would otherwise in most cases.

Maybe I'm being presumptuous, are you saying you ignore any and all signs that don't meet your definition of an approach?

 

[SmooveMooves]

Next: 'How often do women fvck you?'

Hahaha, Seriously though, to answer the question. I get approached occasionally. However, usually a chick that's bold enough to approach, epscially an above average dude, has hella problems. Every chick that has approached me that I gave the time of day was bat****.