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how often are you supposed to get sh!t tested?

ne0phyte

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I'm pretty new to sosuave and the concepts, so I've got a question about sh!t tests and how they are related to how hot a girl is. i've just started seeing this girl, and she's far prettier than the girls I've been able to pull before. but she seems pretty *****y and throws me sh!t tests randomly and frequently. we are making out and she asks "why do you like me? is this what you're here for?" then other times, like when we're driving, she randomly puts me down. "you know, you're not a classy person at all".

it's really annoying to me, and I'm going to toss this one (after I try to hit it :rockon: ) but I was just wondering, are sh!t tests done more often when you date hotter girls, or is it because she has low interest in me? Or am I just being very incongruent? Or finally, is it really simple and she's just a *****?

*we've only hung out twice, and gotten to 3rd base if that info helps
 

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ne0phyte said:
I'm pretty new to sosuave and the concepts, so I've got a question about sh!t tests and how they are related to how hot a girl is. i've just started seeing this girl, and she's far prettier than the girls I've been able to pull before. but she seems pretty *****y and throws me sh!t tests randomly and frequently. we are making out and she asks "why do you like me? is this what you're here for?" then other times, like when we're driving, she randomly puts me down. "you know, you're not a classy person at all".

it's really annoying to me, and I'm going to toss this one (after I try to hit it :rockon: ) but I was just wondering, are sh!t tests done more often when you date hotter girls, or is it because she has low interest in me? Or am I just being very incongruent? Or finally, is it really simple and she's just a *****?

*we've only hung out twice, and gotten to 3rd base if that info helps

well a girl that will be the sweetest most perfect girl with a guy she likes will be the most annoying ***** with a guy she is not really into but stay with wih the hope that the guy will get better thanks to her criticism or w/e.

If this one puts you down it's that genuilly think negative things about you. don't worry i'm sure you can find an attractive girl that is trully attracted to you or something.
my advise would be to , even if you dump her don't dump her advise. For the future try to work on your classiness:) or find an attractive girl that is not into that, as you wish
 

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that makes some sense - but i'm confused about the way she puts me down - it's so very random. if i did something and she said that, ok that's my bad. but for instance, the classy thing - we were talking about an old movie that both of us saw. we talk about the movie, then she says the whole "btw, you're not a classy person".

that's why i see it as more of a sh1t test and her trying to bring me down.
 

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ne0phyte said:
that makes some sense - but i'm confused about the way she puts me down - it's so very random. if i did something and she said that, ok that's my bad. but for instance, the classy thing - we were talking about an old movie that both of us saw. we talk about the movie, then she says the whole "btw, you're not a classy person".

that's why i see it as more of a sh1t test and her trying to bring me down.
Some girls will say random things as random thoughts pops into their head. It's no big deal as it's just a personality trait that some people have. I wouldn't obsess over it.

If some girl said that to me. I would just laugh at it like she was a dumb *****. Not taking them seriously is how you pass these sh1t tests.
 

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i'm not asking about how to pass sh1t tests, i get the idea of that. i was just wondering what the "normal" frequency of sh1t tests are. this girl that I have hung out with seems to sh1t test me more than actually have a normal conversation, which makes her annoying.

i was just wondering from you experienced DJs out there if the rate of sh1t tests increased or not based on how beautiful the girl was, or if it meant ur messing up some how.
 

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Keep in mind: if she's interested in you, she'll sh!t test you. If she's not interested, she won't. If she keeps pushing your boundaries, it means you're not pushing back hard enough.
 
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