How Often Are You Approached?

[tone_loc]

By women, that is.

By "approached", I mean, a woman either a) starts up a conversation with you, or b) touches you first in some way to start a conversation (not just to get past your azz because you're standing in the middle of the aisle).

An approach does not refer to a girl staring at you, or even positioning herself in your vicinity. It means she actually initiates conversation or touching. I'll reveal a bit more about why I'm asking after the first 10 poll votes. Vote now!

 

[alpha_ash]

I voted nearly every night I go out without reading the last option. I have almost always been approached several times a night when I go out. Now I am curious about what you will post after 10 votes. Lets hear it. Come on guys, a few more votes and we get to know what is on this dude's mind.

 

[Huffman]

I guess only total strangers count?

If I look back, I've been directly approached a couple of times this year, but usually it's the exception. I do however get high interest immediately if I start the convo myself. Like I'm standing at the bar, and there's a girl next to me, and I strike up the convo. BOOM she takes over and leads the conversation (high interest).

But a stranger girl directly starting convo doesn't happen often to me. Maybe it's the German culture (or I should get a better haircut )

 

[betheman]

My ex wife approached me first, been approached a few times over the years although Im not really an approachable guy, I dont put up with sh!t and have a fierce/stern look when Im pi$$ed off, it even looks fierce just when m thinking seriously and this comes over as unfriendly , which Im certainly not.
Im a slow burner, people need to be around me a while, something Ive struggled with

 

[Eternal_water]

Well I don't get approached so I don't know how the rest of you are managing it.

 

[synergy1]

Depends on several things: how often I go out, and what venues we go to. The first one is rather obvious as if you go out two, or three nights in a row its bound to happen at least once. Given that I barely go out anymore, it goes without saying that I don't get approached anymore. The later is equally obvious - venue dictates my approachability. If there are more dudes than women, forget it. If its roughly equal or god forbid more women than men, than its a higher chance. Thus its safe to assume that maybe 1X per month as an average.

However, waiting to be approached is a womens game. A few of my friends attempt to peacock, but just end up sitting there like statues and expect that I do all the approaching. In fact, its basically implied that I do most of the work with many of my friends. That said, most of my best work is done when I get out there and act on all the obvious cues. A few approaches to me is like icing on the cake, but certainly not expected.

 

[Mr. Bond]

Nearly every time I go out. I'm having the time of my life, and people want in on that. Does it lead anywhere? Not necessarily. But they approach me nonetheless.

 

[Ringleader41]

Every day

 

[Gunner26]

Only really been going out regularly for just over a year. In that time I've been approached a couple times total. One ended in possibly the easiest make out of my life. Apart from that girls don't really approach me.

I'm the type of guy who doesn't really give you the chance to approach me, at parties if there's a stranger, HB or bloke, I'll have clocked them and probably introduced myself before they even realise I'm the one you want to meet haha.

Gunner

 

[perseverance]

I've had a couple of women ask me 'hang out' with them.

 

[In2theGame]

I hardly ever get "approached". girls just either stare at me or glance over at me. There have been times where a girl will come up to me either to ask for my name or get really aggressive usually on the dance floor, so they would start dancing with me and grab all over me until i grab her and start making out with her and so forth. The thing is i dont get turned down much when i want to approach. Many times girls assume im "spoken for" or with someone.

 

[yuppaz]

It's usually indirect, unless it's at night and I'm dressed to the 9's or having a lot of fun. Then a few times that night.

 

[In2theGame]

It's usually indirect, unless it's at night and I'm dressed to the 9's or having a lot of fun. Then a few times that night.

Its the opposite for me or atleast it feels that way lol. When i really fix myself up i never get approached but then again i guess they want me to approach them. I will see how it goes tonight as i am heading out with friends. The last couple of times i have gone out though ive heard everything from "are you a model? to you are a very beautiful man" whatever the F that means lol but sometimes i would like to have girls come and talk to me a few times.

 

[tone_loc]

Cool, thanks for your votes and responses so far, everyone.

To reveal my reason for posting this poll, I had just made a bet with a girl I'm seeing. She was the one to approach me and says she rarely does that. She says her girlfriends don't approach guys, either.

I said I get approached a lot (she knows as she has been out with me) and I bet her that the majority of guys get approached on a semi-frequent basis (at least a few times a month).

Looks like I lost the bet, just barely! :/ Anyway, I'll be buying her dinner tonight since she won the bet.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

When I used to go out more often I got approached at times. It depends on how much you go out, where you live (environment and competition), how good you look, how approachable (friendly and social you seem), and if chicks feel like approaching you.

Never had anything to complain about.

A second part time job working where women shop and approach constantly everytime you work while getting paid for it is best. I'd say fairly often to think about it. I know most all of the chicks where I work as well and most of them approach me and say hello, BS, or I talk to them.

I've never actually taken a count nor cared if chicks approach or not so I can't give anything other than I'd guess pretty often.

 

[SgtSplacker]

It just isn't natural, kinda freaks me out TBH...

 

[Stryker]

I do wonder if some of you guys are being entirely honest about this... I'm a reasonably good looking guy, I'd say 7/8 out of 10, and women agree with me on this. I've been successful with women over the years, but being approached by a woman is an incredibly rare thing for me. Seriously, 15 votes for 'once or twice a month'? Bugger off... I don't know whether this is because I live in Britain (the antisocial capital of the world) or you guys are simply doing something I'm not, but you can colour me puzzled/suspicious. Women have given me countless signals for me to approach them, but to be approached by a woman is a very rare occurrence.

 

[Ringleader41]

I do wonder if some of you guys are being entirely honest about this... I'm a reasonably good looking guy, I'd say 7/8 out of 10, and women agree with me on this. I've been successful with women over the years, but being approached by a woman is an incredibly rare thing for me. Seriously, 15 votes for 'once or twice a month'? Bugger off... I don't know whether this is because I live in Britain (the antisocial capital of the world) or you guys are simply doing something I'm not, but you can colour me puzzled/suspicious. Women have given me countless signals for me to approach them, but to be approached by a woman is a very rare occurrence.

you're not as good looking as you think. I get approached every time I go out in public.

 

[SgtSplacker]

This poll is flawed, because if a guy like me goes to China or Africa I will get approached every 15 minutes...

 

[SamTheHobit]

I'd say once or twice a year. And I out rank most guys.