How normal is it for our girlfriend or wife to fantasize about other men?

[jhonny9546]

Hi friends, Johnny here!

What do you think about the idea that it's considered normal for a woman to fantasize about other men while having sex with her boyfriend or husband?

She might fantasize about men she meets or who are part of her everyday life. If she remains faithful to her boyfriend or husband, meaning she doesn't act on those attractions, and instead uses those fantasies to become aroused and express that excitement with him, is that considered normal?

Is it possible that those women chooses to be in a relationship with a man they feel comfortable and secure with, perhaps even someone they don't find especially physically attractive, while relying on fantasies about other men to become sexually aroused?

It seems like a silly question, but in reality it is in modern culture that women are pushing for this more and more to be "validated"

 

[BaronOfHair]

@jhonny9546 "What do you think about the idea that it's considered normal for a woman to fantasize about other men while having sex with her boyfriend or husband?"

This is HIGHLY abnormal, J... More so than the fact that infant Mako sharks often devour their siblings while still in the womb

 

[quodlibet]

The vast majority of men fantasize about other women when having sex with their wives or girlfriends. I definitely plead guilty.

I'm sure women are also doing it. It's best not to talk about who we're fantasizing about. Some things are better left unsaid.

 

[plumber]

by normal do you mean common or socially acceptable ?

 

[zekko]

The vast majority of men fantasize about other women when having sex with their wives or girlfriends. I definitely plead guilty.

I'm sure women are also doing it. It's best not to talk about who we're fantasizing about. Some things are better left unsaid.

Yeah, I would guess it's extremely common (and thus normal, I guess). Guys do it, why wouldn't women? Best not to overthink it, probably.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Before she met me, my woman thought she was asexual. Im simultaneously insulted and flattered

 

[zekko]

Before she met me, my woman thought she was asexual. Im simultaneously insulted and flattered

What's insulting about that?

 

[Doctor Europeo]

What's insulting about that?

Its a half joke, like maybe she wasnt into men at all

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

The vast majority of men fantasize about other women when having sex with their wives or girlfriends. I definitely plead guilty.

I'm sure women are also doing it. It's best not to talk about who we're fantasizing about. Some things are better left unsaid.

men fantasize because we're evolutionarily wired to spread our seed to multiple women. women aren't designed for that.

women in a relationship with a man who she respects and is highly sexually attracted to will NOT fantasize about other men

 

[Bokanovsky]

Before she met me, my woman thought she was asexual. Im simultaneously insulted and flattered

Did she also tell you that you have a huge d!ck?

 

[CornbreadFed]

As long as the men in her head are aligned with you then it shouldn’t be a problem. For example, if she likes Travis Kelcie and you happen to be tall, muscular, and extroverted then I don’t see an issue. However, if you are bald and short and she likes tall pretty boy Jesus Chads then you might have a problem.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Did she also tell you that you have a huge d!ck?

The implication being that I’m naive and that she wasn’t being honest. For what it’s worth, my general advice to newer members has been the same for a while: don’t rely on words alone—pay
attention to actions, behaviors, and consistency over time.

We’ve been together for several years, so I’m comfortable with my read of the situation. You’re free to belive what you want, but you don’t actually know either of us.

More importantly, let’s keep things respectful. Expressing yourself about a member’s partner in that way isn’t appropriate. Stick to your own woman/women rather than going for a personal jab.

 

[Bokanovsky]

The implication being that I’m naive and that she wasn’t being honest. For what it’s worth, my general advice to newer members has been the same for a while: don’t rely on words alone—pay
attention to actions, behaviors, and consistency over time.

We’ve been together for several years, so I’m comfortable with my read of the situation. You’re free to belive what you want, but you don’t actually know either of us.

More importantly, let’s keep things respectful. Expressing yourself about a member’s partner in that way isn’t appropriate. Stick to your own woman/women rather than going for a personal jab.

No, the implication is not that you’re naive but that women tend to say things like that whether they are true or not. Not sure why you got offended.