"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How nice should your 'pad' be or does it matter?

mackdaddy27

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Now do you think girls really care what kind of furniture you have, how nice your pad is ?


Its not an issue of money, but laziness or is it worth the effort. I can get nice furniture..

But I already have old college dorm futons etc. which I would get rid of. even though i've been out of college for 5 years


Do you think a girl will actually care or its not a big enough deal ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BeyondCharm

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DonGordon is correct. A few nice pieces of furniture are all you need though.

The main things you want to aim for are:

1. Quality Loveseat
2. One Decent Lamp
3. One Nice Picture on the wall
4. One Nice Dining Room Table/Set (For those romantic evenings)

That's it! The trick is to look on your local craigslist and find cheap deals. I swiped a $500 loveseat for $150 brand new condition and a great deal on a table also. Shop around!
 

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sounds crazy but make sure there are no stains on the toilet, no dirty dishes piled up, bed sheets are washed every week etc. missing any of those can be a disqualifier.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tear Gas

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if you're at the point where a hottie is at your place, as long as it doesn't reak of **** and look like ass, you're getting laid.

just have a clean bed/sofa and you'll be straight...if you go out of your way to make your house nice and perfect, a girl can sense that you're a try hard and gets turned off. Show that MEN live here. My pad has pratically no furniture, but i keep it clean and smells good. Just have my bed, a small couch and that's it. No art/plants/shiny sh1t. it actually shows that you're confident in yourself when you don't put any effort in pointless materialistic crap. It's kind of a turn on when you show you just dont give a fcuk. focus on yourself and your game before "decorating" your house.
 

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Tear Gas said:
if you're at the point where a hottie is at your place, as long as it doesn't reak of **** and look like ass, you're getting laid.
I agree. She didn't come to your house to judge your furniture.

Plus, girls expect guys to be slobs. She doesn't want to fvck an interior designer type. She wants an animal, and animals tend to live in the jungle.
 

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DonGorgon said:
women hate my unclean bathroom..lol..:yes:
they only thing they hate more is cleaning it. my damn female roommate will not clean the bathroom. We are in a stand off until she does it. I don't care how nasty it gets, I did it last time! haha.
 

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sebastionay said:
sounds crazy but make sure there are no stains on the toilet, no dirty dishes piled up, bed sheets are washed every week etc. missing any of those can be a disqualifier.
I think it actually might be physically for me or any other guy to to all those things, theres just some barrier there!
 

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I want and feel comfortable living in a specific type of house. It's my own preference and is largely based on what feels good. I like having nice art, I enjoy quality furniture and I love quality electronics. If you don't like those things then don't get them. They are all non-essential for getting booty.

All you really need is:

A bed
A couch
A TV
Movie Player
Food/Alcohol in the fridge
Toilet paper
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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armadon

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I just picked up some nice furniture cheap from a model home sale. I saved a ton of money. My house is starting to look half way decent now.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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You know I read a thread once that having a dirty pad or a pad with sh!t scattered around can be a plus.

If I find the article I'll post the link.
 

Wodan

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In Motion said:
I think it actually might be physically for me or any other guy to to all those things, theres just some barrier there!

Your missing a fundamental understanding, being a good looking guy with a good personality isnt everything, The best girls are looking for a LIESTYLE!

Theres two extremes, you could have done everything right and have the nicely laid out clean room, and she'l just think 'i could really get used to this, i can see myself enjoying coming round and settling in really easily'

OR you could have done everything right and have the room look a state and she'l just think 'he has a sh*t stain on the toilet i cant believe what a dirty b*astard he is, im never coming here again!'

like perhaps you rate girls out of 10 which is dictated by looks+personality, your home is defenately a factor with girls and can defenately knock you up a point or two.

It becomes a bad cycle when you dont keep the place tip top guys, ive let it slip in the past and its put girls right off me. It quickly gets to a point where you think pretty much nothing of it, your own mess in nowhere near as disgusting as it is to other people remember.
 

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Art can add a lot of depth to your home and persona.

Art:
Roy Lichtenstein
http://www.vauxx.com/
http://www.fabianperez.com/
David Bolt
Black and white photos
thomas kinkade paintings Pathway To Paradise and Mountain Retreat II.
Tim Burton
http://prints.deviantart.com
Claude Monet
John Singer Sargent
Modigliani
Claude Macke has really bright and vibrant paintings
Van Gogh
Gustav Klimt
Goya
Renoir
Edvard Munch
Lautrec
Rivera
Rubens
Robert Lynn Nelson (Hawaii Art)

Cheap Art Trick:
Find really high quality pics of good art online and download the photo and print it out, buy some cheap black frames from Wal-Mart and there you go. A good place to find lots of photos is on ebay. Just look up art and go from there. Everyone takes great photos of what they're selling
Makes for good 8 x 10 pics. $2 ink + $3 frame is a good deal.
 

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Ive just got the bare minimum decoration wise to be honest and the ppl i bring back defeantely like it. BUT! pictures,sculptures or even posters can be used to make conversation if you have an orkward silence.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well don't YOU care how your own room looks like? I'm in a student room, but I take care of it and have pretty decent couches, rugs, and shelves. I just couldn't stand to live in the rooms of other fellow students where dirty laundry and empty pizza boxes litter the whole place...
 

Wodan

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I like it yeah but alot of people get used to it being bad as i just explained, and most student places are really messy.
 

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Fvcking hell. Make your pad as nice as possible so you can enjoy it as much as you can too.

I think in your twenties, where you live and what you have isn't so important (as opposed to when you get to your thirties and women are looking at dates and fvcks as potential life partners) but you need to at least have everything as clean and tidy as possible. Making it a bit homely is surely going to make for a more comfotable environment too.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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