She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
great link -- pretty much answer many of the questions i had...GS750 said:
Willard said:I used to always have two cars, one a 4-5 year old Toyota or Acura and a Corvette or Porsche. I would always go on the first few dates with my regular car so the girl wouldn't be seeing me because she thought I had money.
Now I just have one car a 2008 Infiniti G37S I bought a few years ago, I get complimented on it often from my dates, and none of then asked what year it is. I drive it because I like it and would buy another if I wrecked it.
Women usually don't know much about cars, so If you buy a 4 or 5 year old Mercedes, BMW, Jaguar for $25-30, they will most likely be very impressed, I would suggest you keep the Camry to weed out the gold diggers and then show them your nicer car.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Keep us posted. Let us know what you buy and how it helps get some.icantgetlaid said:it looks like i'll start the car shopping.
backbreaker said:This. This. This. This. This. 90% of women do not know, do not care what year your car is. If it has the right emblem on it and looks cute they they you have money.
My wife drives, or drove as i just bought her a new car 2 weeks ago, a 2003 Mercedes clk convertible. i'd take her car out and women would always be oh that's such a cute / nice car.
You don't even need a NEW car. Get a 2007 Lexus ES350 or something like that. it's a 11k car and will get you a ton of *****.
Exactly...BMWs are amazing, but they're also kind of bland to the average Joe who can't recognize grill shapes/headlights/silhouettes of vehicles. Most girls wouldn't know that you had a BMW until they saw the logo on it. That Veloster is way more distinctive and polarizing, hence all of the attention. Miatas, Minis, 500s, Beatles, etc are what really get the average girl's attention. I actually like the current Beatle turbos...bigneil said:I got a Hyundai Veloster Turbo with every option for $25K and only pay $300 a month. More girls have complimented me on it than the BMW M3 I drove for 17 years prior ($700 a month on average, first the lease, then the upkeep). Don't waste money on a car.
I'm going to do a what a lot of people here are not doing and simply give you a straight answer without addressing whether or not it reflects on some kind of insecurity you may or may not have. Yes, it will help you get laid. All these guys giving you this "do it for you, bro!" are really fooling themselves.icantgetlaid said:I drive a 10 year old 2006 Toyota Camry even though I could easily afford a brand new luxury car. I make $100K but have lil to no expenses, and only have to take care of myself (single).
My Camry, for its age, is very well kept (engine & body), runs perfect, and is an otherwise decent looking mid size sedan. It easily can go another 200K miles.
Back to my question: in terms of picking up better quality girls -- how much would, say, a 2016 sporty BMW/Audi/Mercedes/Lexus type car help .. and would it be worth the $600-$1,000 extra a month ? I'm weighing the pros and cons of conserving/investing and driving a fancy car to improve my chances with higher quality girls.
I'm currently dating ~5s but trying to improve myself to get that number up to ~7+
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
A nice car that you LIKE to drive improves the DJ's perceived quality of life. Quality of life is something all of us are attempting to improve whether we like it or not.mustfirstregister said:How much would a brand new sport/luxury car improve my game?
If you have game then why do you need a brand new car?
If your game is at beginner's stage then having a new car could get you dates, even a girlfriend. However I wouldn't spend the money on a car because it gets devalue.
^^^GS750 said:Just food for thought. 04-05 Porsche 911's can be had for a relatively decent price with low miles. The nice thing about Porsche's is that they don't change much year to year. 98% of people can tell the difference between a 2004 and a 2014.
I made a typo in that post. It should say 98% of people can't tell the difference between an 2004 and a 2014. Unless they are into Porsche's, they sort of all look the same. But they are timeless. And they are sexy cars.HeadLightsOn said:^^^
Very true. A nice 'exotic' car does make a difference to chick pull, but I still agree with most posts here - buy it for yourself. The nice side effect is getting extra chick interest. Then you have to convert that IL to gold.
Porsche IMO is one of the best value for money top level cars. Make sure it's mint and looks great, don't worry about mileage or year. If it's older, tell the truth - it's a 'classic' Porsche![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Cadillac, huh? You do your pick up at the retirement home?Espi said:I drive a Cadillac CTS and it helps. No question about it in my mind.
Love BMW's and if you go that route, I suggest a new or pre-owned 650.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.