How much pressure is too much?

[King Turi]

I've got a chick I'm wanting to get to come over my place (she has a boyfriend but I don't care, he's in another state and they ain't seen each other in ages), she hasn't blown off the idea at all, just yeah, I'm wanting to know whereabouts the limit is to trying to get someone to come over sorta thing..

I made a song and basically I wanna see what lyrics she has written up for it sorta thing, so I told her come over and show me, she said she don't wanna show me 'cuz she can't sing, I told her just do it 'cuz I wanna see what she's got basically.

But yeah, so far I don't think it's been pushed into awkwardness, but is there any signs I should be looking out for ONLINE that basically say "back off"?

I do know her for real, got no credit to call or text her, so it's all online tonight unfortunately.

 

[RandallLambert]

I do know her for real, got no credit to call or text her, so it's all online tonight unfortunately.

Damn man, go and get some credit and call her. That's the first thing. Don't do online stuff with things like this, gives her too much time to think of an excuse.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

she has a boyfriend but I don't care

Woah stop right there champ, you're stuck in the AFC mindset here.
DO NOT MESS WITH GIRLS THAT HAVE BOYFRIENDS.

I don't care how much you like her, neither does she or her bf.
If you try to get with a girl who's taken you highly increase your chances of getting fvcked up.

I have nothing else to say, except that if you try this you will fail. Even if you end up getting this girl you will fvcking fail because you'd be in a relationship with a known cheater. Don't even think about making moves on a girl who's taken EVER.

 

[King Turi]

Woah stop right there champ, you're stuck in the AFC mindset here.
DO NOT MESS WITH GIRLS THAT HAVE BOYFRIENDS.

I don't care how much you like her, neither does she or her bf.
If you try to get with a girl who's taken you highly increase your chances of getting fvcked up.

I have nothing else to say, except that if you try this you will fail. Even if you end up getting this girl you will fvcking fail because you'd be in a relationship with a known cheater. Don't even think about making moves on a girl who's taken EVER.

Mate I ain't lookin' for a relationship with her.

It was too late last night by the time I'd got credit (was like 12am) and told her to come over, told her she's comin' out fishin' with me tonight (how romantic, right?), and she gonna be there.

Basically what I'm getting from this chick is that she wants me to bang her, but she wasn't so sure if I wanted to, last night I pretty much got it through that we gonna get it on, and I guess I'll see what happens tonight since it's a fairly late tide, and I don't know what her schedule is tomorrow, tide is like 11pm.. I go out to fish about an hour and a half earlier, so I'll be out there at about 9.30, I'll tell her 10 though so I can chill for a bit.

But yeah, so the online thing not so good even if you got no credit?

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Mate I ain't lookin' for a relationship with her.

Doesn't matter...if you only want sex, pick up a girl from a club or audition for porn.

I change the reference of my last post to fvcking girls with bfs.
If you go through with it, you'll be dripping the essence of your manhood away afterwards. Hope you understand the metaphor.

 

[Willis]

Puccy Is Puccy.....who Fu<kin Cares If She Has A Boyfriend "whateva The Hel That Is" Jus Fu<k Her And Be Done And Ur Done..

Mission Complete

 

[46and2aheadofme]

Doesn't matter...if you only want sex, pick up a girl from a club or audition for porn.

I change the reference of my last post to fvcking girls with bfs.
If you go through with it, you'll be dripping the essence of your manhood away afterwards. Hope you understand the metaphor.

I disagree.


Pursuing a girl with a boyfriend is independent of one's manhood.


It is a sign of loose morals, but nothing else.


Do you think before civilization put up all these parameters that primal men gave a fvck if a female was fvcking another dude?


Also, there is so much infidelity in modern western society, those who restrict themselves to only single girls are putting themselves at a comparative disadvantage to those who don't give a fvck.


But then again, going after girls with bfs usually isn't worth the amount of effort usually required.


I say use with caution, and definitely don't let a taken chick be your only option.

 

[xdreamz]

when she has a boyfriend and ur pursuing her there is no 'too much pressure'

i don't condone going after chicks with bf's, if i wasn't popular at the time i probably would have gotten shot by one of them. girls are sneaky sometimes and if they're pursuing you then learn to keep everything discreet. if you messed with a girl and a guy you meet shows you a picture of his girlfriend in his wallet and it turns out to be her, don't tell him how you guys hooked up for heaven's sake. i mean if you don't know the boyfriend at all it's a lot better. if you meet him somehow, chat him up, get his number...you banged his girl. a lot of hot girls are probably 'seeing' a few guys anyways so there are always boyfriend issues to deal with. 50% of life dramas will probably be decreased if people will just go for the many beautiful single ladies out there, but it's the lure if the unforbidden that is the most seductive to both guys and girls (although in society it is more accepted for a guy to cheat) a woman can easily wander off but does not want to look or feel like a slut because it brings hatred and jealousy amongst females. that's why you do it behind closed doors, if it was seen in the public pursuing a girl that's taken then you might want to prepare for an angry boyfriend, if she's with him at the time and ur obviously trying to seduce her then be prepared for some kung-fu and maybe even fellow hoodlums with beer bottles as weapons. but there is absolutely not too much pressure. she should pretty much do the job, and she'll do it well, of hiding you if she was really interested. but other girls the ones you want to avoid will just have you around as a floater to validate herself and to cry to you about how mean her boyfriend. avoid that situation at all cost, i suggest you just sit back and focus on building a good connection and being a fun-loving guy, not some pet that follows her around. if ur just that good then you might have successfully stole the girlfriend but she can easily be stolen back so don't be so attatched

 

[harpomarx]

nm - meant this as a new thread..

 

[scrouds]

oh wow. Everyone chiming in about going after girls with or without bfs just stop. Its a personal choice, and doesn't seem up for debate here.

Getting back to the question at hand..... how much pressure is too much pressure. This is what ive' noticed.

*If you put too little pressure, that's bad. Go to LJBF, Go directly to LJBF, do not pass go, do not collect $200.

*If you put too much pressure you come off as needy. How can you tell if you're coming off as needy? Very hard to do online. That's why the DJs of this board hate it so much (I'm learning to take this stuff offline myself)

I tend to think if you keep the correct frame and project it correctly to the girl, you can put as much pressure as you want. If her IL is way up, then she'll just eat it all up and say "please sir, may I have some more"

Of course you can blow yourself out of the water, but I figure you need to see both sides to know where the limit is. Its a learning experience. Maybe you need to blow this out of the water yourself and see how far you can go before things pop.

 

[King Turi]

Hmm, I respect people's opinions when it comes to chicks with boyfriends, I seem to do it a lot but it's not intentional, it's just that these are the kind of chicks who come to me, I usually don't know they are taken until it's too late.

With this chick in particular, I know she wants me to give it to her, I ain't met her boyfriend he's in another state, they ain't seen each other in ages and the way I see it, and this is how my mate put it to her too, as a joke is..

Friend: "where's your boyfriend?"
Chick: "he's in NSW"
Friend: "well that dudes in the bay"

Pretty straightforward, I'll bang her on thursday I reckon, since I don't have a chance to until then (got other stuff on).

xdreamz, yeah you're point is valid, and NSW people have a tendency to whip out weapons but I've seen pics of him, doesn't seem anything to worry about, and he's probably banging other chicks anyway so who cares, right?

..and nah, I'm not attached to this chick, she got a fine body and she's fun to be around, but I don't get no one-itis feelings in my gut or anything so yeah, all good so far.