"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How much of your time and effort do you spend on "game" and "chicks" to your own life.

9Volt

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How much of your time and effort do you spend on "game", and chicks in comparison to your own life.

 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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fastlife

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It's all cumulative--success in one area of your life carries over into other aspects of your life. I spend probably around 10 hours a week in venues with the main purpose of meeting girls--so around 11% of my waking hours (assuming 112 waking hours in a week). But this also, for me, qualifies as general recreation & socialization (I often go out with people from various social groups). And it's not like that's not time spent as an investment in myself.

When I first started getting success with cold approach, I realized that I didn't need money or career prestige or a preexisting social network/peer approval to get laid regularly (which is, let's be honest, the reason most guys work as hard & as long as they do). I was also forced to confront Fear of Failure & Fear of Success and to view myself as someone who takes action/risks. Those three factors led to me quitting my day job and going to work for myself, taking up a part time gig to cover any nonnegotiable expenses that couldn't be guaranteed by the particular line of work I chose. Had I not taken that initial plunge, I could've spent years grinding away at some job I didn't even like to have enough external confidence to sell myself as a good provider.

But the general breakdown for my weekly time budget is:
  • 65 hours working (40 for me, ~25 for a company)
  • 10 hours a week meeting new girls
  • 4 hours a week with girls I'm already seeing
  • 8 hours a week exercising
  • 10 hours a week working on a hobby that I think I'll eventually be able to monetize
  • That still leaves me with 16 hours for eating, hanging out with friends, reading, wasting time on the internet (my biggest waste, by far). I don't have time to watch TV but that's about the biggest sacrifice I've had to make to keep my life abundant with women.
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Theromanceking

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How much of your time and effort do you spend on "game", and chicks in comparison to your own life.
Hey bro. I think maybe 4 hours. Including texting girls on social media. Btw can anyone tell me how to post in this forum?
 

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For me, it's not something one 'spends time on'. That's the old school theory of game, whereby geeks and nerds 'spent time' going out approaching women for the sake of getting laid or finding a girlfriend.

I believe that success with women is just a by-product of a successful and happy life - meeting women is an ongoing process running in the background that never really stops. I'm going about my business, having a good time with family and friends, enjoying life and meeting women along the way. I will occasionally go out on my own, if I'm at a loose end on a Saturday night. Even then, my primary focus is to go out and enjoy myself, then meeting people just happens naturally.

Caring about your career can be a b-tch!
There is more universal truth in this than meet the eye. Caring too much goes for everything in life.

The moment that you are most in control is the moment that you realise that you never really will be.
 
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