how much of a set back is this?

[bookman]

well I like this girl in my university, she's very beautiful and very smart
my problem is I repeated my second year of pharmacy and now I am moving to another major(I'm 20 years and a half starting over something completly different) ... while she is scoring straight A's... I am not even sure she would consider me, I've been acting confident and arrogant and all that but I have this voice in the back of my head constantly saying "don't kid yourself"

would intelligent women consider someone with lower academic performance?

 

[FreD_BeaR]

id say yes, its all about how you carry yourself. Just because you arent as smart dosnt mean you cant cause attraction.

 

[Stéphane]

My girlfriend is third year pharmacy and I'm a college dropout so yes it is possible.

 

[YAboi]

well I like this girl in my university, she's very beautiful and very smart


would intelligent women consider someone with lower academic performance?

err like duh of course she would. Do you think bad boys that bag the chicks are the smartest guys on the block? NO

You should actually not be talkin to her about academics, like totally stay off that stuff unless she brings it up and even then just touch on it briefly. Focus on seducing her with your charm and wit and kino....

Girls want to escape the mundaneness of school work and employment and its up to you as a guy to give her a means of fun and escape but just make sure you are also enjoying yourself in the process. Also try and get your grades up man so that your future remains lined with options.

Totally blank the thoughts of comparison out of your mind as that is just gonna be a roadblock towards you gettin poon.

edit: I realised she is in your faculty so you really have a good excuse to deal directly with her by using school work as an excuse to meet up but try and stay sexual by teasing the chick if you ever have a 'private' study session. Chicks don't enjoy logical communication so don't bore her with school talk.Make your intentions known non-verbally but early enough through flirting and kino (mostly flirtin at the beginning stages).

 

[bookman]

I am smart
it's just pharmacy, you need 80/100 to just pass, she along with the people who are passing don't have a life at all
I'm talking about studying 20 days ahead of every exam day and night, my average is 77 which is why I am running away

but I don't know, her being beautiful is hard enough for me, I also want to add I have almost 0 dating experience, I've been doing it all wrong all these years until last year when I started readign this site and dating books to realise that...

edit: wow 2 replies as I was writing this post
thanks for the help guys

 

[Kailex]

Did Bill Gates graduate from college? NO.

Just talk about the stuff you DO know about.
Most women care about the ambition behind the man. Yes, a LOT care of what job you have and whether you can provide, but stuff happens. Just SHOW that you are willing to better yourself personally and within any career of your choosing.

NEVER consider yourself inferior.

 

[bookman]

trust me, no girls want to hear about computers or how to reconfigure a router, which is what I am good at

edit:

edit: I realised she is in your faculty so you really have a good excuse to deal directly with her by using school work as an excuse to meet up but try and stay sexual by teasing the chick if you ever have a 'private' study session. Chicks don't enjoy logical communication so don't bore her with school talk.Make your intentions known non-verbally but early enough through flirting and kino (mostly flirtin at the beginning stages).

not really, pharmacy is not about understanding anything or thinking, it is pure memorising
and memorising you do alone there are no questions or things to understand really, it's like I'm telling you something...

mostly I am stuck maneuvering around her group of women, and it is veryyy annoying
why do women travel in packs? they even go to bathrooms in groups sometimes

 

[Matt281]

Try not to create imaginary problems for yourself. She doesn't care if you did bad in a class or if you don't get good grades in general. It's also very likely that she doesn't care about all the other little things that you assume to be barriers between the two of you.

Your only real problem is your lack of dating experience. A good thing to remember is that to get that one "special" girl, you have to be good with all girls.

I hate to burst your bubble, but it really doesn't matter if you spend countless hours analyzing the situation, asking for advice online and trying to set up the perfect opportunity to get this girl. I'm not trying to be mean, but there's a very good chance that it won't work out between you two. It's not unfair, it's not anyone else's fault and believe it or not, it's not the end of the world. Girls want guys who are good with women in general; yes, even those "special" girls. And the only way to get better with women is to get field experience - a lot of it.

I know that's not what you want to hear, but that's life.

 

[bookman]

I want to hear everything. I am more interested in experience rather than this one girl
yes I am good to all women, I read many tutorials, I am opening doors, I am not needy,clingy or anything, I am chattign with other women too etc...

online messenger is a tricky business too, I need some tips there

we usualy have a conversation like once a week or 2, I used to IM girls more frequently but that was just needy, now I am keeping it sort and simple and usualy being the one ending the contact(dragging is too annoying)
I talked to her yesterday on the messenger and today she IMed me

I dropped her an SMS message wishign goodluck when she had an exam, she replied saying that's sweet and being very grateful for it

meh that's about all I got

 

[Kailex]

Come on man, you can do better than that. I'm an IT major as well, and work in the financial industry. Trust me, routers is not the only thing I know. I've found that I can hold a conversation about just about anything. It's almost as if you enjoy portraying yourself in a negative light... to yourself, about women. That's not healthy and not the best way to start out.

What was said above was true, you need the experience, which unfortunately means, you might have to crash and burn a few times.

Keep those IMs to a minimum. You get no experience from those. Anyone can hide behind the monitor and portray themselves to be something different (both you and them).

Start asking for numbers, calling, setting up dates, even if they are set up for failure. But you have to TRY and learn. There is only so much you can learn here. But you have to apply it.

 

[Matt281]

I'm glad you're interested in the process and that you're talking with other women. That's the attitude you need to make this all work. But I'm not sure you understand the extent to which you have to do this.

However long it takes, go talk to a few hundred women with the intent of getting their numbers and having sex with them. Not on campus, but any other public place you can find women (mall, street, bars when you turn 21, etc). If you do that, you'll be well on your way to getting the girls like the one you're talking about. If not, you're going to have a lot more trouble.

Beyond some pretty basic knowledge, there's really no shortcuts in game.

 

[bookman]

ok thanks alot guys