"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How much of a red flag is this?

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First post, after being away for around 4 years, things have mostly been good. I was in a ltr With a decent women for 4 years, but I ended it about 2 months ago due to excessive nagging, partly my fault for not leading well and losing frame.The breakup left her in a mess.

So we had a dog together, mainly for my kids. She kept it until I settled into my new place. Recently, whenever I took the dog for a day with my kids, it sneezed a lot. I asked her if she noticed. She did but said it wasn't as bad with her. Was going to make a vet appointment this week if not better.
Finally settle things down this week and have the dog full time, the sneezing has completely stopped. I just realized the dog was reacting to her perfume, which she must have intentionally used to make me miss her. It seems a bit psycho to me. What do you think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Unless you think your kids are in danger, it probably doesnt matter much now that you ended things with her.
 

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No not at all. She was very good with my kids.
And because of this i have been having doubt.
Felt like me slacking off on the basics stuff increased her neurotism.
 

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Do you know that your dog sneezes around her perfume?
Do you know she was using it?

It seems like a lot of assumptions are being made, unless there's more detail not being given. Even then, making a dog sneeze isn't really that extreme. And yes, all women are a little psycho.

Yes i am assuming but not without cause.
He was sneezing in a very unusual way. One that made me consider calling the Vet and i really dont call the vet for nothing.

The 2 previous time the dog had a strong smell, this time none and no more sneezing. Might just be because ex hugged the dog or something.
Im almost 100% sure it was perfume, but does not mean it was done on purpose....

Now is it an acceptable level of psycho or not that is what i need feeback on
 

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Great to see you back brother, but I don't understand. You ended it with her 2 months ago but are asking about reflags now? Why does it matter? Unless you're stupidly having 2nd doubts as 2 months have passed. It's over. You made a big boy decision, stick to it. Get your self-control in check. Keep working on yourself, with what energy you have left after putting into you kids- they deserve the best.
There's younger and hotter ones out there. Keep your chin up king.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Trust your gut. If Old Testament has decked us in the chin and slit our hearts about something is that women can be devilish and insidious when abandoned out in the cold. it doesn’t matter if she been a nurturing women with your lil ones. A wounded woman can be unrecognizable.
A slipped frame recovery is energy better invested on a more fresh fertile catch.
Keep walking and be well, man.
 
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Due to solipsism, it would be expected that a woman who appreciates fragrances would resort to these tactics to psychologically manipulate. She knows that in her past relations that she has missed men based on smelling their scent. She knows it works, and could be trying it on you. Is it crazy? I don't think so. I wear fragrances for myself and psychological manipulations and/or spikes. It seems to only affect women who have an emotional connection of some sort.
That soft manipulation goes over the average dude’s head. I got good faith that Iamath will make the right call.
 

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Thanks for all the rep;y.
I know the questions look weak af, i guess i got some serious frame recovery to do.
I know way better than this.....
 

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Due to solipsism, it would be expected that a woman who appreciates fragrances would resort to these tactics to psychologically manipulate. She knows that in her past relations that she has missed men based on smelling their scent. She knows it works, and could be trying it on you. Is it crazy? I don't think so. I wear fragrances for myself and psychological manipulations and/or spikes. It seems to only affect women who have an emotional connection of some sort.
Well said ! its a form of projection she thinks i would react the same way she does.
It went way over my head like it did not even register with me, until my daughter noticed it....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hi Iamath,
Never heard of perfume effecting a Dog,but I do remember my Old Dog accidentally eating Ant bait and her sneezing was incredible so you don't really know.
 
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